Power, Gender and Control

Pride in Respect Podcast - Episode 3: Power, Gender and ControlIn this episode of the Pride and Respect Podcast, host Dr Jack Farrugia is joined by Paulie and Starlady for a powerful conversation about gender, power and control in the context of family, domestic, intimate partner and sexual violence experienced by trans and gender diverse people.Starlady, a queer trans woman, feminine person and Director of the Zoe Belle Gender Collective, brings insight from her work in violence prevention, trans advocacy and the Transfem project. She speaks to the ways trans misogyny, cisnormativity, gender expectations and systemic discrimination can shape violence, and why services must do more than simply say they're inclusive. They must build trust, employ trans people, understand trans-specific experiences and actively make their spaces safe.Paulie shares personal reflections on familial violence, rejection, coming out, loss, survival, chosen family and the long-term impacts of being denied safety, affirmation and support. Her story highlights how violence against trans people can begin within families, continue across relationships, and be intensified by silence, shame, exclusion and systems that are not built to recognise trans experiences.Together, this conversation explores visibility, chosen family, community care, meaningful allyship and systemic change. It is a confronting but hopeful episode about what it means for trans and gender diverse people to be believed, respected, loved and supported.In this episode, we discuss:How family violence can show up for trans and gender diverse peopleThe role of chosen family, community connection and peer supportHow cisnormativity and transphobia can make violence harder to recogniseWhy trans people may not feel safe accessing police, justice or mainstream support servicesThe need for family violence services to build trust with trans communitiesStarlady’s work on the Transfem projectWhat meaningful allyship looks like for trans and gender diverse peoplePaulie’s lived experience of familial violence, rejection and survivalWhy systems must include trans voices from the beginning, not as an afterthoughtThe importance of love, affirmation and respect in preventing harmIf you are in immediate danger, call 000.For 24/7 family, domestic and sexual violence counselling and support, contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732.LGBTIQA+ specialist FDV support is available through the Rainbow Sexual, Domestic and Family Violence Helpline on 1800 497 212.In Western Australia, you can contact the Pride and Respect Specialist FDV Support Service on 0481 080 201.For more information, resources and support links, visit prideandrespect.org.au.About Pride in RespectPride and Respect is a community partnership between Living Proud, GRAI, Transfolk WA and WAAC, generously funded by the Department of Communities.This podcast was proudly produced by Pineapple Fingers. If this conversation was meaningful, please subscribe, share the episode, or pass it on to someone who may need support.The Pride in Respect podcast is recorded on Whadjuk Noongar boodja. We acknowledge and pay our respects to the Whadjuk people of the Noongar Nation and their Elders past and present as the traditional custodians of this land. We also honour Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander LGBTIQA+ people, including Brotherboys, Sistergirls and trans mob, and recognise their resilience, strength and deep connection to Country.