Power Struggles Are a Control Problem (Not a Kid Problem)

Why does everything turn into a power struggle? Why does your kid fight you on things that seem so small? Why does she refuse to do something she genuinely loves the second you ask her to do it?It's not defiance. It's control...or rather, the lack of it.In this episode I share a story about a girl who refused to ride her horse after a summer of back-to-back activities, and why from the outside it looked like defiance but from the inside it was the only thing in her day she actually got to decide. I talk about why kids today are more overscheduled and under-autonomied than any generation before them, what the nervous system actually needs to develop a healthy sense of self, and why power struggles are really just information about where agency has gone missing.I also share exactly how we run weekly planning meetings in our house with Josie (13) and Izzy (10), how Human Design shapes the kind of autonomy each of them needs, and the one thing you can try this week that will noticeably shift your family's dynamic.Plus the Rose, Bud and Thorn check-in we do at dinner — and why Josie walked out the door this morning with a list of business ideas for me.Come join the conversation in the Balanced Nest community on Skool — comment CONNECT and I'll send you the link. Run your free Human Design chart at balancednest.com.Your family is worth the work.