Prevent, Parenting & Powerless in Tesco | NeuroDADverse Ep.3

🎧 Episode 3 – Prevent Training, Parenting Pressure & Permission to FeelDan and Ben reflect on how institutional systems like Prevent training can unintentionally stigmatise neurodivergent traits. It sparks an emotional, wide-ranging chat about justice, advocacy, and the subtle harm of misrepresentation.But this episode isn’t just about systems. It’s also about the stuff at home: giving your kid Calpol without a meltdown, seeing your teenager self-regulate in a crowd, and how a trip to Tesco can undo you when you’re running on empty.This is one of our rawest episodes yet — where we unpack shame, supermarket stress, emotional resilience, and the lifelong balancing act of being neurodivergent parents to neurodivergent kids.💬 Topics this episode:The Prevent training controversy and autism misrepresentationFeelings of injustice, rage, and the power of feedbackRejection Sensitivity Dysphoria in everyday lifeParenting while masking (and noticing you’re masking)Boundary setting with teens and respecting their independenceToilet wins, texture issues, and the sensory minefield of CalpolBath time negotiations and scoring system updatesSolo parenting, emotional labour, and being “on” all the time👇 CHAPTERS BELOW for easy navigation.00:00 – Intro & Welcome01:00 – Weather chat and podcast energy shift01:30 – Prevent Training: What triggered us this week04:00 – Autism, radicalisation, and narrative bias in education06:30 – When training videos get it wrong09:00 – Narrow portrayals of neurodivergence12:00 – From Prevent to parenting emotions: three-word check-in13:30 – Joy, despair, and hydration failure15:00 – Wins vs. Challenges (and the expansion of the format)18:00 – Dan’s raw week: rejection, solo parenting, and emotional walls22:30 – Behaviour is communication — and what that really means24:00 – The Calpol-on-the-ceiling story26:00 – Sensory food issues and being a super sleuth29:00 – Toilet wins and emotional highs in the middle of chaos30:30 – Teen boundaries and the “shepherd, not engineer” mindset32:00 – Mutual respect, negotiation, and raising safe, self-aware teens34:00 – Ben’s challenge: supermarket shame spiral and emotional overload39:30 – The invisible weight of "tutting" and social feedback44:00 – Hair dye, sensory processing, and when you’re not welcome in the room46:00 – Shoes-on productivity hack (does it work?)48:00 – Rejection Sensitivity in everyday moments51:00 – Community, compassion, and navigating difficult comparisons54:00 – Services are stretched: exclusions, SEND support and local politics58:00 – Why “comparison is the thief of joy” (except when it isn’t)01:01:00 – Neurodivergent parenting and sharing the emotional load01:03:00 – Diagnosis check-in: where things stand01:05:00 – Looking ahead: solo parenting, the flower show, and the Euros01:08:00 – Garden bath hacks and muddy memories01:10:00 – Bath score of the week: a solid 8 (with shared duties!)01:11:30 – Outro: You're doing great. You're not alone.💡 If this episode moved you:🔔 Subscribe for weekly episodes👍 Like the episode — it helps more families find us💬 Share your story in the comments or DM us on Instagram📧 Contact: [email protected]📲 Follow us on TikTok & Instagram: @NeuroDadversePodcast🔗 #NeurodiverseParenting #SENDLife #ADHDAwareness #AutismAdvocacy y #ParentingPodcast #EmotionalRegulation #NeurodivergentDad #PreventTraining #NDLife #NeuroDadverse Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.