Problem #39: Does the "3-month rule" matter anymore?

from I Got Problems! · host Sandra & Co.

When you meet someone, they usually dont show their true colors for another 2-3 months because all the facade fades after 6-8 dates and you get to see who you might be spending the rest of your time with and if it is worth it. Whether you’re dating someone, adopting a dog or taking a new job, it takes three months to figure out what you’ve gotten yourself into. But do you have to wait that long to know for sure very single time?  According to a CNN article: The first three months of knowing someone is a time of illusions. Instead of seeing the person objectively, you see them for who you want them to be. Your object of desire is laden with fantasies and projections. We think it takes about three months to strip away the layers and start to see this person for who they really are but you might not feel the same. Let's break it down.  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER LINKS: https://www.sarahgrat.com/3-month-rule/ https://socialunderground.com/2016/11/3-month-rule-relationships/ http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/11/03/tf.three.month.dating.rule/index.html 138920-this-is-how-many-one-night-stands-turn-into-relationships https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a19545154/how-to-turn-a-one-night-stand-into-a-relationship/ Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

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When you meet someone, they usually dont show their true colors for another 2-3 months because all the facade fades after 6-8 dates and you get to see who you might be spending the rest of your time with and if it is worth it. Whether you’re dating someone, adopting a dog or taking a new job, it takes three months to figure out what you’ve gotten yourself into. But do you have to wait that long to know for sure very single time? According to a CNN article: The first three months of knowing someone is a time of illusions. Instead of seeing the person objectively, you see them for who you want them to be. Your object of desire is laden with fantasies and projections. We think it takes about three months to strip away the layers and start to see this person for who they really are but you might not feel the same. Let's break it down. Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER LINKS: https://www.sarahgrat.com/3-month-rule/ https://socialunderground.com/2016/11/3-month-rule-relationships/ http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/11/03/tf.three.month.dating.rule/index.html 138920-this-is-how-many-one-night-stands-turn-into-relationships https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a19545154/how-to-turn-a-one-night-stand-into-a-relationship/ Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]