Problem solving and wisdom - listener question

I'm in knots trying to work out what to cook for dinner. I just can't find anything suitable. Suddenly I am full of self pity because it always seems to be me who has to solve this VAST problem.  I can't do it! Then I just give up and experience peace. Time passes...and then it transpires that everyone is actually out this evening and its just me I have to cook for, so I'm off the hook. I have used this as an example of my inner wisdom, but I am not sure anymore. It is like there is two forms of wisdom...wisdom that wants to keep the identity safe and make it feel good, and wisdom that just unfolds like life itself.**Here is the question**: is the pulling back from the stressful experience of having to choose A og B a form of false wisdom? I often experience a pulling back, because I know my thinking will change. But, what I have learned on this course is that going up to edge of the unpleasant feeling, to look for the ME who is experiencing this,  is a way to transcend a small program within the larger program (like transcending one record in a record shop that exist to play records). Is pulling back a way that ensures that the record will play again and again, until I see that it has nothing to do with who I really am?