Productively Avoidant

Today we are circling back to a quote by Brene Brown “Crazy-Busy is a great way to stay numb . What a lot of us do is that we stay so busy, and so out in front of our life that the truth of how we are feeling can’t catch up.”We ask the question of why might we do this and what can we do to become more connected to ourselves. If we don’t pay attention to ourselves, who suffers? We do, our kids because we teach them that emotions are not expressed, our friends, our spouses, really any relationship because we cannot have emotional depth or intimacy. How can anyone get to know us if we don’t know us.I have a lot of clients who avoid almost any negative emotion, they have a small window of tolerance for negative emotions. Feelings like- disappointment, rejections, sadness, anger, anxiety, loneliness, alienation, to name but a few- this leads to a disconnection from self. You cannot avoid your feelings or thoughts. They just sit there and build and build and build. Until one day you blow. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit abbeysamide.substack.com