Profound Autism and Letting Go of Expectations with Autism Mom, Alyssa Sieira

What happens when autism parenting becomes physically, emotionally, and mentally consuming? In this episode of Inchstones, Sarah Kernion sits down with Alyssa Sierra for a raw conversation about profound autism, aggressive behaviors, caregiver exhaustion, sibling dynamics, and the emotional process of letting go of expectations. Alyssa shares the story of her son Gabriel’s autism diagnosis during the pandemic and the moment motherhood shifted from “typical” parenting into a completely different reality. Together, Sarah and Alyssa discuss profound autism, parenting autistic children with severe behaviors, autism family support, caregiver burnout, and the invisible emotional labor autism moms carry every single day. The conversation explores: the grief of realizing your parenting path looks different navigating aggressive and self-injurious autism behaviors raising neurotypical siblings alongside autistic children the emotional complexity of discipline in neurodivergent homes why profound autism parenting feels different even within autism communities finding joy and beauty inside developmental differences Sarah and Alyssa also talk openly about survival mode, motherhood identity, sensory overwhelm, and why releasing rigid expectations can create more peace for both parents and children. This episode is for autism moms, caregivers, and families navigating profound autism, developmental delays, severe behaviors, and the emotional complexity of raising neurodivergent children while trying to stay emotionally grounded themselves. Alyssa is a special needs mom to her beautiful 7-year-old son and also a mom to a neurotypical 2-year-old. Navigating both sides of parenting has its unique challenges, but it has also made her stronger, more compassionate, and deeply committed to advocacy. She is passionate about supporting families raising children with disabilities and believes every special needs family deserves the highest level of support from their state and government. Parenting a child with special needs comes with enough challenges; families should not have to fight to have their voices heard. Alyssa believes that every family's story matters and that sharing those stories is one of the most powerful ways to create understanding, change, and a better future for children with disabilities. In this episode: 00:00 – Profound autism and the reality of caregiving 02:05 – Receiving an autism diagnosis during the pandemic 03:10 – Tunnel vision after diagnosis and needing a plan 05:00 – The grief of leaving “typical motherhood” behind 06:45 – Explaining autism to friends and family 07:30 – Aggressive behaviors and profound autism realities 09:20 – Parenting autistic children and neurotypical siblings differently 11:00 – The emotional complexity of discipline in autism parenting 13:00 – Why autism parenting expands emotional perspective 14:15 – Building community and finding supportive people 16:00 – What autism moms say privately versus publicly 17:10 – Finding joy inside neurodivergent parenting 18:00 – Why autistic children experience wonder differently 19:10 – Letting go of expectations in autism parenting 21:00 – Learning to survive difficult behavioral seasons 22:00 – Why positivity matters in caregiver burnout recovery Listen to more episodes of the Inchstones Podcast, an autism podcast sharing caregiver stories, profound autism realities, autism advocacy, and neurodivergent parenting. Chapters (00:00:00) - May Is Autism Month (00:01:46) - Gabriel Was Diagnosed With Autism at 2 (00:06:55) - One autism mom's experience with her typical daughter (00:12:10) - Gabriel's support system has been so open (00:15:44) - Letting go of expectations for your child (00:20:59) - Alyssa's Powerful Story