Put Dating Back in the Box – Trauma & Boundaries with Author Preston Wheeler

Send us Fan MailEpisode OverviewIn this powerful conversation, Preston Wheeler joins us to discuss his book “Put Dating Back in the Box,” co-authored with Alonzo McLittle. This book offers a structured and character-centered approach to relationships. Instead of rushing into connections, Preston encourages individuals to first develop self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and personal responsibility.This episode explores what happens when we enter relationships without healing unresolved trauma and how intentional growth can transform the way we love.What We Discussed🔹 Introducing Put Dating Back in the Box (0:00)Preston shares the heart behind the book. It provides practical guidance on:Recognizing self-worthHealing from past traumaAvoiding manipulative or abusive partnersDeveloping character before commitmentThe book encourages readers to slow down and build internal strength before seeking external validation.🔹 The Importance of Personal Growth (4:15)Many unhealthy relationships begin when people seek partnership without first addressing:Emotional woundsUnresolved traumaLack of relationship educationCharacter development gapsPreston explains that growth is not optional. It is foundational. Healthy relationships require two whole individuals, not two people looking to be rescued.🔹 Overcoming Trauma and Developing Boundaries (6:47)Preston shares how his own relationship challenges shaped his mission.He discusses:The power of forgiveness without abandoning boundariesLearning from painful experiencesDeveloping self-awarenessRefusing to tolerate unhealthy behaviorHealing does not mean forgetting. It means learning and strengthening your discernment.🔹 Accessing Resources for Personal Growth (12:33)The book highlights the importance of education and support systems such as:CounselingSupport groupsPodcastsBooks on emotional intelligence and character developmentGrowth requires intentional learning. No one is expected to do this alone.🔹 Availability and Impact (30:01)“Put Dating Back in the Box” is widely available through major retailers. Preston encourages listeners to explore the book and begin the journey toward healthier, more empowered relationships.His closing message is clear:You do not have to stay stuck in trauma. You can choose growth.Reflection QuestionsHave I taken time to develop my character before pursuing partnership?What patterns in my relationships might be connected to unresolved trauma?Where do I need stronger boundaries?What resources can I begin using today to grow? We are dedicated to providing support, education, and resources to individuals recovering from various forms of trauma. With a dedicated listener base, our podcast offers a unique opportunity for sponsors to connect with a deeply engaged and supportive community.Partnering with us will provide crucial support to many who need it on their recovery journey.  Support the showRemember, Trauma was not your fault, your were collateral damage on someone else's warpath.  Trauma was not your fault, however Recovery is your Responsibility.  I am your host, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding, and this is The Get Trauma Informed Podcast. Contact us at: [email protected]://www.skool.com/oasis-wellness-academy-3841/aboutDisclaimer:This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not therapy or clinical treatment. Please seek licensed support where appropriate.