Question your values

What if the values you’re most proud of are also the ones keeping you stuck? In this episode of Stronger Standards, I explore how “good” standards like reliability, resilience, discipline, and independence can quietly become fear-based safety strategies. I talk about:When “good” values quietly keep you stuckThe 'Cage of Unquestioned Standards'Values shaped by safety, not authenticitySame actions, different motives: toward vs. awayWhat your values are costing youRecalibrating values with compassion, not fear This episode invites you to notice how you relate to your values and whether they’re serving you, or keeping you stuck — and how to recalibrate your values with compassion. Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction: The cage of unquestioned standards01:00 - Safety strategies and identity formation02:25 - Examples of limiting standards04:06 - Intellectualization as a safety strategy04:44 - Resilience and overcoming tolerance05:57 - The impact of discipline on body image06:43 - Reevaluating your relationship with values10:18 - Practical steps to recalibrate your values12:25 - Conclusion: building a better relationship with valuesMore Resources:Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download hereConnect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeerLearn more about compassion coaching: get the details here