Rabbi Moshe Haber : Selective Sensitivity: The Art of Getting Along 7.19.26

https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/hqumbzvhbgclytasqrw8e/The_Art_of_Getting_Along.png?rlkey=5kcfgenovna7r573u6f5x76no&dl=0Selective Sensitivity: The Art of Getting AlongJul 19, 2026This source explores the essential character trait of emotional balance required to foster healthy relationships and avoid senseless conflict. The author argues that while modern society emphasizes being kind and sensitive toward others, it often overlooks the danger of being hypersensitive regarding oneself. By being too easily insulted or preoccupied with personal recognition, individuals inadvertently contribute to baseless hatred and become difficult for others to engage with. The text suggests a model of selective sensitivity, where a person remains deeply empathetic to the feelings of those around them while maintaining a "cold" or thick-skinned approach toward their own ego. Ultimately, developing this maturity allows one to let go of petty grievances and "tears for no reason," leading to a more stable and peaceful existence. Using personal anecdotes and historical religious context, the speaker emphasizes that true character development is found in the ability to get along with everyone by diminishing one's own self-importance.https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/g3d7r3la1ikea882ioiin/Beyond_Niceness.pdf?rlkey=wm9cld5txbt8gcmlko2r3q327&dl=0