RE 306: Who are you Becoming?

Today we have Robyn. She took her last drink on June 30, 2020. With 63 days away from alcohol (at the time of this recording), this is her story of living alcohol free (AF). Today's Sponsor: Café RE Odette's weekly installment of: Finding Your Better You The last Monday of the year! "What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals" – Zig Ziglar This journey isn't about arriving, it's about becoming. How much we are willing to put in is what we should celebrate. Your hard work and new habits are what is to be celebrated. No one can take that away from you. What have you noticed about your journey this year? Who did you become this year? [6:35] Odette introduces Robyn. Robyn is from Columbia, South Carolina. She lives with her partner and he has two kids they see often. She likes jigsaw puzzles, reading, journaling and meditating. Pre-covid she liked vacations to the mountains. [9:33] Can you give listeners some background on your story? Robyn said she started drinking around her senior year of high school. She was shy. When she moved to NC it was a fresh start and to fit in, she drank. It helped her open up and have fun. After some life trials and moving to Columbia she made friends with bartenders and it was still fun drinking. During a relationship with another alcoholic, she noticed her drinking really ramped up. There were lots of times she talked herself out of being an alcoholic. In 2011 Robyn got a DUI. She did quit for a little, but it didn't stick. After her mother passed away was when Robyn actually noticed it was a problem. She dealt with so much during that time. Robyn's getting to her last drink came in ebbs and flows over years. There was a definite mental decline that she noticed. [26:10] How was your emotional state during these times of drinking and then returning to drinking? Robyn said she stopped beating herself up. It took a while for that overall to stop, but the more she met people and gained community it's been easier for her to be easier on herself. She's learned there's no point in beating yourself up, it won't help. [31:06] What do you do when you get a craving? Robyn said she reaches out. Her partner helps her with the rational side of her thinking. If he's not available, she will reach out to Café RE or her little DTB group. [32:43] How has this decision affected other relationships? Robyn said her boss is also in recovery and he's a big supporter of her recovery. Her best friend still drinks but is supportive of her choice. [35:21] Have you been able to identify any triggers? Robyn said some of her triggers are good things. If she's having a good day, yard work, outside activities. Her triggers aren't emotional anymore. [38:06] Do you have a daily routine? Robyn said journaling. She's journaled most of her life and she's really focused on it during her sobriety. Robyn even noticed that if she takes a break, within a week she's had a drink. Even when she doesn't have anything "great" to say, she writes anyway. She tries to include gratitude and she's begun meditating. [47:18] Rapid Fire Round If you could talk to day 1 Robyn, what would you say? Keep trying, you're making the right decision, keep going. It will eventually be good. What are you excited about right now? Do some sober travel and meet some Cafe RE members. What are some of your favorite resources on this journey? Cafe RE, journaling, quit lit and other podcasts, all of them. What is your favorite NA beverage? All the sparkling water, if it's sparkling and it's water, I want it! What parting piece of guidance would you give to listeners thinking about ditching the booze? Give it a try you will never know how good it can feel until you give it a chance. And be easy on yourself. You may have to say adios to booze if... you wanted to stock up for quarantine and it only lasts you 4 days. Odette's weekly challenge: Take a few moments to reflect on today's intro on becoming. Who are you trying to become? Thank you to each listener! Upcoming events, retreats and courses: Recovery Elevator RESTORE January 2021 Course. We will be offering this starting 1/1/2021. We're meeting 13 times in January via Zoom to give you the tools and accountability needed for an alcohol-free January… and hopefully more! You can find more information about our events Affiliate Link for Amazon: Shop via Amazon using this link. The book, Alcohol is SH!T, is out. Pick up your paperback copy on Amazon here! You can get the Audible version here! Resources: Recovery Elevator YouTube - Subscribe here! Sobriety Tracker iTunes Sobriety Tracker Android Sober Selfies! - Send your Sober Selfie and your Success Story to [email protected] "Recovery Elevator – Embrace the journey of becoming and Happy New Year- I love you guys"