RE 367: Why Geographical Cures Don't Work

Today we have Aaron. He is from San Antonio and took his last drink on May 22, 2019. Today's Sponsor: Café RE Use the promo code CONNECT for one free month in the alcohol-free community Café RE. Highlights from Paul Paul advises listeners that if you aren't doing the inner work, your problems will follow you, whether you move, change jobs, or change relationships. That's why geographic cures don't work. He speaks about some of his geographic solutions and why they helped temporarily, but eventually, he discovered he was the problem and had to buckle down to do the deep inner work. Paul highly recommends getting out of toxic situations. Paul describes the inner work as connecting with yourself, learning to love yourself, setting boundaries, making decisions that benefit your sobriety, and standing up for yourself. Ultimately, inner work often causes you to leave toxic situations, relationships, jobs, etc. When you learn to respect yourself, you will choose environments that are conducive to your wholeness. [11:54] Aaron is 27, lives in Texas, and works in finance for a corporate bank. He is a family guy, loves hiking, getting outside, food truck Friday's and hanging out with his nieces and nephews. Aaron was raised by an amazing single mother and had a great childhood. His world was rocked when his mom died of breast cancer when he was twelve. Entering high school after losing his mom left him feeling disconnected from family, people, places, and himself. He started drinking his sophomore year, and alcohol gave him confidence, popularity, and connection. He moved to the Midwest to live with his sister and encountered a new environment, including harsh winters. Boredom led to more drinking, pot use, and the wrong crowd. Aaron spoke heartfeltly about the role shame played in his delay in maintaining continuous sobriety. Resentments and anger fueled his drinking. He was 24 when he first attempted sobriety. Eventually, an early morning AA meeting became the key to stacking days. He started working out and listened to the Recovery Elevator podcast during his workout. His mom became a higher power for him as he got sober. Sharing his story with you today is Aaron's way to give back and offer hope. Aaron discovered some co-addictions along the way, including co-dependency and disordered eating, Value Bombs You don't have to have a hard physical bottom to get sober. You can get sober because you want a better life You can stay sober because you have a better life. A solid morning routine and discipline led him to stacking days. Discipline has taught him to choose what matters most: his health, career, and family. Aaron's relationships are now pure and genuine because he made a change. Sitting with his feelings and journaling have helped him live life on life's terms. Sobriety is an opportunity, not a sacrifice. Odette's Summary Odette reminds us that baby steps are progress. She reminds us we are too hard on ourselves and encourages us to remember the small things we are doing that move us in the right direction. Baby steps add up and create a compound effect. Those baby steps are decisions and small actions culminating in meaningful differences. Take inventory of the small things you are doing that move you in the right direction, and be proud! Remember that you are not alone and together is always better. Upcoming events, retreats, and courses: You can find more information about our events Resources Recovery Elevator YouTube - Subscribe here! Sobriety Tracker iTunes Recovery Elevator – we took the elevator down; we need to take the stairs back up. I love you guys.