RE 426: It Gets Easier

Today we have Jeffrey, he is 35, from Monument, CO and he took his last drink on July 23, 2022. Today's Sponsor: Café RE Use the promo code CONNECT for one free month in the alcohol-free community Café RE. [02:16] Thoughts from Paul: Paul shares that he recently attended an AA meeting where a member celebrated 40 years of sobriety. One thing he took away from this is that it will naturally get easier the more time away from alcohol you have and the more life experience you get. It is also helpful to focus not on the destination, but the journey itself. There is a YouTube channel that Paul watches where the host, Michael, showcases some of the most scenic railways in the world. Michael also shares similar views about the destination vs. the journey. Here is the link to one of his videos documenting the scenic Amtrak train route from Denver to Winter Park Ski Resort. When we realize that hard days are a part of life, and that hard days are a part of an alcohol-free life, things get easier. With each conscious breath we take, things get easier. If you are struggling, on day one or day zero, Paul's message to you is that this journey will get easier if we embrace it and we don't do it alone. [09:38] Kris introduces Jeffrey: Jeffrey is 35 from Monument, CO, he does apartment maintenance for a living, he is single and has one dog and two cats. For fun, he plays Magic the Gathering and is trying to get back into reading, specifically mental health and self-help type material. Jeffrey was a loner growing up, but his sister's social network became his as well. In high school, they would invite him to parties where there was lots of heavy drinking. It was a weekly event for him and his friends to scrape up money to have an older friend purchase 40's for them to drink. He went into the job corps program when he was 20. He wasn't allowed to drink, and he went nearly a year without alcohol and didn't really feel it was a loss. When he came back home from that he picked drinking back up and was drinking daily but didn't feel it was excessive. Jeffrey was questioning his drinking and was able to quit again for another year but realizes now he didn't have the recovery mindset, he was just doing it because he felt it was a spiritual issue. At that point he felt he had had enough of a break and could allow himself to drink again. Aside from a few isolated negative events, Jeffrey was able to drink without much consequence for quite a while. Jeffrey's drinking started to escalate and saw him shifting from social drinking to eventually needing it in order to feel normal. He says that drinking was part of the culture at the hotel job that he had. Once he started a new career, he knew he needed to stop the daytime drinking. That lasted some time, but eventually the anxiety became out of control to where Jeffrey had to use alcohol to help him feel normal and function. After his family left him, he was really spiraling out. One Saturday morning he woke up to some family members coming into his home. They had organized an intervention and had everything set up for him to be able to go to rehab. He agreed to just go and says it changed everything for him. He committed to 30 days but stayed longer. Jeffrey feels that he gained a lot of skills for recovery and life through DBT and CBT treatment. The focus on core beliefs really helped him. Since getting in recovery, he is healing his relationships and making friends. Jeffrey feels that living is possible for him now. Recovery Elevator YouTube Sobriety Tracker iTunes Recovery Elevator The only way out is through I love you guys