RE 481: Collective Truths

Today we have Susie. She is 52 and lives in Lubbock, TX and took her last drink on February 10th, 2024. Today's Sponsor: Café RE Use the promo code CONNECT for one free month in the alcohol-free community Café RE. [02:18] Thoughts from Paul: Paul's goal with the introductions each week is to find a topic that we can collectively resonate with. His goal is for as many of us as possible to say "yep" or to nod our heads while listening. There are many different types of listeners to the podcast. Some had already ditched the booze, some long ago and some more recently. Another group is still in the process of quitting drinking. We also have another group of listeners who are here to support a loved one who is struggling with alcohol. We are so glad you are here with us. Paul lists the many reasons why people listen and what they are looking for by doing so. Ultimately, we are all here to grow. [09:58] Paul introduces Susie: Susie is 52 and lives in Lubbock, TX with her husband of two years. She has been a hairstylist for many years and considers it her passion. Susie enjoys reading, exercise, enjoying the outdoors and attending sporting events. Susie first experimented with alcohol when she was in high school and didn't care for it. There was very little drinking for Susie throughout college and her 20's. In Susie's 30's, her husband and she began to drink socially on the weekends but his drinking increasingly got worse and eventually the divorced due to his anger issues and alcohol abuse. For a long time, Susie didn't use alcohol as a coping mechanism but had other issues that she feels were attempts to avoid her feelings such as an eating disorder and excessive exercise. Susie reflects that she didn't really have an off switch when she drank for events, but typically wouldn't drink for a while afterwards. Shortly after marrying her current husband, some issues started to arise in their relationship and Susie found herself beginning to use alcohol to cope. She says it wasn't much of an issue until she began to try and hide how much she was drinking. It started to create issues in her marriage and Susie would find her husband leaving her a few times, which created feelings of abandonment and rejection. After an event that led to Susie being hospitalized, she attended an IOP but left and continued drinking. Her husband asked her to go to inpatient rehab, so she did, but she continued to drink afterwards and ended up taking another trip to rehab a few months later. Her husband eventually ended up leaving, which was very eye-opening for Susie. She started attending a women's AA group which she enjoyed and learned a lot from. Going forward Susie plans to continue attending AA meetings when she can, and she just joined Café RE where she plans to be an active participant. She and her husband are separated now but are attending counseling and Susie feels hopeful about their future. Susie surrounds herself with positive people at work and has friends from rehab that she checks in with frequently. Things Susie has learned about herself on this journey: self-acceptance; loving yourself. No matter where you are, you're okay just the way you are. Susie's best sober moment: spending time with her husband going to sporting events sober. Susie's parting piece of guidance: don't ever give up on yourself, don't isolate yourself, always surround yourself with people. Café RE – promo code OPPORTUNITY waives set up fee. RE merch Instagram Recovery Elevator YouTube Sobriety Tracker iTunes Recovery Elevator You took the elevator down; you gotta take the stairs back up. You can do this. I love you guys.