Real Talk with NK Navarro — "My Picker Is Broken"

Send us Fan MailThere's a moment in dating when the story stops being about them and starts being about you. NK Navarro found hers in a coffee shop, in tears, at 40.My guest today is NK Navarro, author of When the Bar Is in Hell: Dating at 40. She's an entrepreneur, educator, and single mom with two master's degrees who relocated to get specialized care for her youngest son — and who then spent five years discovering that experience doesn't make dating any less complicated. Her book started as journal entries she'd read aloud to friends, who kept telling her the stories were too good not to publish.She's not wrong. Wait until you hear about the minivan.In this conversation:The coffee date that unraveled in real time — the makeup on his shirt, the device on his dashboard, and the phone call that explained everythingWhy she kept swiping right on the same kind of man, and what it took to admit the pattern was hers"Fire" — the one who didn't fit her checklist, had his life together, and told her the truth she wasn't ready forThe sentence in the middle of her tears that changed everything: you are single because of youWhy she didn't chase him back, and what respecting someone's no taught her about respecting her ownBeing a lifelong fixer, and learning that the word no ends with a periodThe three practices that actually hold her together: gym time with no screens, a midday walk with the dog, and a journaling rule her mom taught her — every entry has to end on something good, however smallThis one is funny. Genuinely, laugh-out-loud funny. It's also one of the most honest accounts of self-accountability we've had on the show — because the hardest pattern to spot is the one you're choosing.Find NK:Website: nknavarro.comTikTok: @authornknavarroFacebook: Author NKWhen the Bar Is in Hell: Dating at 40 — available at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Walmart, Books-A-Million, Indigo (Canada), and independent bookstoresReady to go deeper?More of Virginia's story at http://breakthepatterns.netBook a complimentary consultation: calendly.com/breakthepatternsFollow along on Instagram and Facebook @officialvirginiamcconnellSupport the showRed Flags & Real Love is a Break the Patterns podcast, hosted by Virginia McConnell — Dating and Relationship Pattern Coach, specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery.🔗 Free quiz: breakthepatterns.netlify.app 🔗 Website: breakthepatterns.net 📅 Book a free coaching consultation: calendly.com/breakthepatternsConnect with Virginia: 📸 Instagram: instagram.com/officialvirginiamcconnell 👥 Facebook: facebook.com/officialvirginiamcconnellNew episodes every week.