Reality is a Process

We often treat "reality" like one single thing to be captured or pinned down. But what if we instead view reality as a process? In this episode, I attempt to describe my view of reality as a messy, living dance, or a process of ongoing unfolding. From the power (and pressure) of believing our minds shape our world, to the hard lessons of when logic alone can't break a panic loop, I share personal tools that actually work: from bringing myself back into the present through the "Circle of Reactivity", to why journaling sometimes made my anxiety worse by dragging me deeper into old memories and what to do instead. We'll also look at how play reveals what we hide. I open up about a strange pattern I observed while playing The Sims: regardless of who I started with, I always ended up building a family. Two years later, I became a parent myself. Was it manifestation? Or just the subconscious whispering what was ready to surface? Finally, we touch on Rapid Resolution Therapy®, a powerful perspective where we learn that we can speak directly to the body's need for safety rather than mentally analyzing our way out of fear. This is powerful, and more than that, it actually works, because: if you can remind your body how it feels to be safe - you have shifted yourself into a reality where you feel safe. This isn't a lecture on how reality "should" be. It's an invitation to stop fighting the process and start experimenting. Because whether you're navigating inherited trauma, subconscious desires, or just a bad day, the only reality that truly exists is the one you're experiencing right here, right now. Questions to ponder as you listen: Where do you find yourself accepting someone else's "truth" instead of trusting your own experience? What patterns in your play or daydreams might be pointing to a desire you haven't acknowledged yet? Can you imagine a situation where your current struggle isn't a failure, but simply a part of an unfolding process? If you view reality as relational—connected to ancestors, history, the present and the future—how does that change the pressure you put on yourself to "get it right"? Does it release the pressure, or add new ones? Or both? If you feel like sharing your contemplations with me, I'd love to hear them! Tag or message me on Instagram at @mysterious.minnamari or send an email to [email protected]. See the video version of this episode on YouTube. Additional Resources: Podcast episode that describes the Circle of Reactivity in much more detail on More Alive podcast by Andrea Crowder: Ep. 60 Advice From Andrea’s Army Special Forces Dad: When Life Knocks You Down, Do This! with Jeff Conti Two books that discuss reality as a hologram: Stalking the Wild Pendulum by Itzhak Bentov The Holographic Universe by Michael Talbot