Reboot: What to Do When Your Priorities Changes (#027)

This week, our hosts talk about struggles with reintegrating into the workplace. As Sean's family dynamic changes, he realizes his definition of success has changed drastically. While priorities and lifestyle change, he struggles to understand how to pursue work without sacrificing his family life. Listen as James offers a different way to look at our relationship with money and his astute advice on defining success. Key Takeaways: Struggles lessen when you realize your priorities in life. Having a profound understanding will help you rethink your goals and define how you view success. When your priorities change, your expectations of yourself should also change. Sometimes, the struggle comes from unrealistic expectations we set for ourselves. We often have an unhealthy relationship with money. We tend to associate work with income. In reality. Work like research, development, and learning really equate to money, yet these contribute to growth and planning. The lack of focus and doing so many things at the same time limits your chance to fail. Failures allow you to learn and pivot. Episode Quotes: The unhealthy relationship between work and money James [00:13:56]: Maybe, this all stems from having, why don't we try to say it? Our relationship with work, for us, is how we grow up. It is defined by, is linked to income. And in a world where you need income to do whatever you do. For that source of money becomes work until you're in a place where you have enough money, not to worry about having to make more money. And so, maybe, a lot of us put worth or like our self-worth on how much we make. When we think about how much progress we are making or how much impact we're making, it's tied to money, and it's tied to having to always do something for money. Maybe that's an unhealthy relationship. The lack of focus lessens the chance for learning and doing a deep dive Sean [00:20:26]: It just made me realize, I mean, this is hindsight bias, obviously. But I think the mistake I've been making is that there's been this overarching fear that, like, we don't have enough time and because we don’t have enough time, we can just run one experiment at a time. We need to be running like five, ten (10). And that causes (a) lack of focus and (b) you can't go deep. Right? And, I don't get much learning, actually. When we fail because when one experiment fails, I have four others I need to manage and run. It's like, I don't really have time to figure out what happened with the first experiment.