Rebuilding a Beautiful Life After Loss - with Kayla Stoecklein

Send us Fan MailThis very special episode of Alison Answers - Mission Awake is one of both vulnerability and incredible strength. Kayla Stoecklein lost her husband, Andrew—pastor of Inland Hills Church in Chino, California—to suicide. Being that Alison lost her husband in the same tragic way, Kayla and Alison feel compelled to awaken the world to the hidden shame that comes along with suicide. The aftermath of enduring such a painful and heart-wrenching loss can be too much to bear, but through these immense losses, there are lessons and messages that need to be shared with the world.In the wake of Kayla’s husband’s death, she embarked on a brave journey to better understand his harrowing battle with mental illness and, ultimately, to overcome the stigma of suicide. She knew she needed to become informed on the painful grip that mental illness can have on someone, and now she shares her story with the world through speaking events and her 2 amazing books, Fear Gone Wild, and Rebuilding Beautiful. Kayla and Alison’s grief and pain have been transformative in a way that they want everyone to know how to support someone in the depths of pain, and also those that are enduring grief. Key highlights:Introduction to KaylaAlison and Kayla’s desire to awaken the world to the hidden shame that comes along with suicideBedrock PrinciplesPain is transformativeKayla’s tragic loss and her mission to understand mental illnessThe meaning of the title “Fear Gone Wild”Her husband’s start of his mental illness“Rebuilding Beautiful” meaningThe power of her blogs and writing for other peopleRealizing she was part of a bigger storyPutting away the victim card and taking out the bravery cardVulnerability allows us and others to take off their mask- that's the key to relationships and helping othersHow we need to hear other’s cries for help, don't make it about youAdvice to people that may have loved ones dealing with suicidal thoughtsAs soon as an outcome happens, everything before it is illuminatedReaching out to others if you feel this wayKayla’s life after loss - why she decided to move away and start overHow to support someone in their grief when you feel like you don’t have the right wordsYour presence is a gift for someone dealing with pain and griefTriumph after lossWhen you see someone in shame, help them separate the shame from themselvesEpisode resources:Fear Gone Wild by Kayla StoeckleinPreorder Rebuilding Beautiful by Kayla StoeckleinConnect with Kayla:Website: kaylastoecklein.comInstagram: @kaylasteckConnect with Alison:Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacConnect with Alison:Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources:Lager Counseling ServicesCall: 516-221-2123Text: (914) 363-0381Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential)Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org