Recycle Yourself

Have you ever wondered if your marriage, if you, need to be "born again?" In this episode, Maurice Harker, Director of Life Changing Services, discusses the concept of seasons in a relationship and how it relates to the ups and downs experienced by couples. They explain that when they meet people, it's usually during the "fall" of their relationship, symbolizing a time when things are falling apart. Season three represents this phase of falling apart. Maurice describes season four as a winter phase, where the couple allows the marriage to go into dormancy and focus on individual growth. During this phase, both partners work on becoming "born again" individuals, which sets the foundation for a healthier relationship in the future. He introduces the idea of a marital mission statement, which serves as a blueprint for a healthy marriage based on the new wisdom acquired during the challenging times. He encourages revisiting and revising the marital mission statement regularly. The discussion also centers around triggers and how they can be misinterpreted by the animal brain as alarms when no real danger exists. Maurice advises questioning the veracity of triggers and working towards rewiring the brain to respond more positively. Additionally, Maurice emphasizes the importance of striving for impossible ideals, practicing courage, and being open to the process of regrouping when things don't go as planned. He advocates for a pleasant friendship during season four and courage and resilience during season one. Maurice shares a story of a couple's brief season two, emphasizing that relationships can go through various phases quickly, and it's essential to be open and adaptive during the journey. Tune in to this episode for valuable insights on understanding the different phases of a relationship and embracing growth and change to build a stronger partnership.