EPISODE · May 22, 2026 · 58 MIN
Red Flags & Rose Colored Glasses: Why We Ignore What We Already Know
from Ask Nyomi " Bridging The Gap" Podcast · host Nyomi Banks
You saw the flag. You felt it in your body. And you stayed anyway.In Week 2 of Loved, Lost & Reclaimed, Nyomi Banks, Dogg Pound Mike Mike and Dr. Will Washington get real about the role WE play in our own heartbreak. Not to shame — but to set us free.This episode digs into the letter that has been the heartbeat of this month — specifically the moment our letter writer looked in the mirror and owned her part. "I too preferred to convince and lie to myself, rationalizing all the red flags away."IN THIS EPISODE:- What is love bombing — and why does it work on even the most emotionally intelligent people?- Future faking: why people paint pictures of a future they never intend to deliver- Cognitive dissonance — why smart people stay in situations they know are not good for them- The difference between self-accountability and self-blame- "Healthy demands an unhealthy psyche simply cannot cater to" — unpacking one of the most powerful lines from the letter- A listener shares: "I stayed because at least I knew his poison"- The Pattern Breaker: 3 questions to protect your futureCLOSING WISDOM:- Nyomi: "Love bombing is not love. It is a down payment on a debt you will eventually be asked to pay."- Dr. Will: "Be kind to yourself and heal always."- Mike Mike: "Honesty, trust, communication — nothing starts perfect but love can work out when those things are there."YOUR HOSTS:Nyomi Banks — Da Goddess of Self LoveDogg Pound Mike MikeDr. Will Washington — Washington Wellness InstituteTHIS MONTH WE ARE SUPPORTING TWO CAUSES:💜 Love & Mental Health Campaign:give.gofundme.com/give-classy-org-LoveAndMentalHealth💙 Help Maverick Fight Neuroblastoma:gofundme.com/f/help-maverick-fight-his-fight-against-neuroblastomaOUR SPONSOR:🔍 Social Catfish — verify before you invest your heart:social-catfish.pxf.io/WyjAneCONNECT:Email: [email protected]: asknyomi.comInstagram: @therealnyomibanks#AskNyomi #BridgingTheGap #RedFlags #RoseColoredGlasses #LovedLostReclaimed #LoveAndMentalHealth #MentalHealthAwarenessMonth #BetrayalTrauma #SelfLove #HealingBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/ask-nyomi-bridging-the-gap-podcast--5343726/support."Thank you for joining me on Ask Nyomi: Bridging The Gap. Remember, your sexuality is sacred, your desires are valid, and honest conversations create deeper connections.If today's episode helped you see things differently, share it with someone who needs this conversation. And please rate and review the show.Follow me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @AskNyomi send your questions – this show exists because of YOU. Visit us at AskNyomi.ComUntil Thursday – stay curious, stay open, stay authentic.This is your girl Nyomi Banks. Keep bridging that gap." Always keep it Simply Sexy"
What this episode covers
You saw the flag. You felt it in your body. And you stayed anyway.In Week 2 of Loved, Lost & Reclaimed, Nyomi Banks, Dogg Pound Mike Mike and Dr. Will Washington get real about the role WE play in our own heartbreak. Not to shame — but to set us free.This episode digs into the letter that has been the heartbeat of this month — specifically the moment our letter writer looked in the mirror and owned her part. "I too preferred to convince and lie to myself, rationalizing all the red flags away."IN THIS EPISODE:- What is love bombing — and why does it work on even the most emotionally intelligent people?- Future faking: why people paint pictures of a future they never intend to deliver- Cognitive dissonance — why smart people stay in situations they know are not good for them- The difference between self-accountability and self-blame- "Healthy demands an unhealthy psyche simply cannot cater to" — unpacking one of the most powerful lines from the letter- A listener shares: "I stayed because at least I knew his poison"- The Pattern Breaker: 3 questions to protect your futureCLOSING WISDOM:- Nyomi: "Love bombing is not love. It is a down payment on a debt you will eventually be asked to pay."- Dr. Will: "Be kind to yourself and heal always."- Mike Mike: "Honesty, trust, communication — nothing starts perfect but love can work out when those things are there."YOUR HOSTS:Nyomi Banks — Da Goddess of Self LoveDogg Pound Mike MikeDr. Will Washington — Washington Wellness InstituteTHIS MONTH WE ARE SUPPORTING TWO CAUSES:💜 Love & Mental Health Campaign:give.gofundme.com/give-classy-org-LoveAndMentalHealth💙 Help Maverick Fight Neuroblastoma:gofundme.com/f/help-maverick-fight-his-fight-against-neuroblastomaOUR SPONSOR:🔍 Social Catfish — verify before you invest your heart:social-catfish.pxf.io/WyjAneCONNECT:Email: [email protected]: asknyomi.comInstagram: @therealnyomibanks#AskNyomi #BridgingTheGap #RedFlags #RoseColoredGlasses #LovedLostReclaimed #LoveAndMentalHealth #MentalHealthAwarenessMonth #BetrayalTrauma #SelfLove #HealingBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/ask-nyomi-bridging-the-gap-podcast--5343726/support."Thank you for joining me on Ask Nyomi: Bridging The Gap. Remember, your sexuality is sacred, your desires are valid, and honest conversations create deeper connections.If today's episode helped you see things differently, share it with someone who needs this conversation. And please rate and review the show.Follow me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @AskNyomi send your questions – this show exists because of YOU. Visit us at AskNyomi.ComUntil Thursday – stay curious, stay open, stay authentic.This is your girl Nyomi Banks. Keep bridging that gap." Always keep it Simply Sexy"
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