Red Flags When Dating! - Podcast #14

Podcast #14 is Millennial Z and Boomer X discussing their dating red flags. These “red flags” could be so severe that they result in “black flags” thereby ending any further relationship or continued dating, but generally not. We all have our own checklist of red flags that we watch for when dating someone and getting to know them before we consider them for any long term relationship, but somehow people seem to slip through our defenses, or we tend to make excuses for these red flag behaviors because for whatever reason, we have a strong attraction for them or really like being around them. Perhaps surprisingly, Millennial Z is far more mercenary in his approach to dating and throwing up a red flag than the older Boomer X. Although, Boomer X may have a more comprehensive list of red flags than Millennial Z, he may be more understanding of certain behaviors that would be considered red flags…up to a point. The duo have even asked their respective girlfriend and fiance’ for their own red flags when dating because each managed to negotiate through the dating world to land a multi-year relationship or receive a “yes” to a marriage proposal. One common red flag in particular started showing up for every person in different ways which was a bit surprising, but won’t be if you’ve tried to maintain a long term relationship, and to be clear, these red flags are for consideration of a person for long term purposes. There is an entirely different group of flags for short term prospects or “friends with benefits” (FWB). This discussion is for dating with the potential for permanent partnership with another. Also, while we discuss from the position of heterosexual men primarily, these red flags and the mentioned black flags, apply universally to any orientation or gender. Millennial Z did mention a couple of red flags that Boomer X simply didn’t have to deal with due to how each generation deals with technology, and simply wasn’t an issue for him. And while many red flags will be known and utilized by most, I’m sure that the emphasis put on one will surprise many and others discussed will give pause to more. Thank you for listening and watching!