Reflections Inspired By Dr. Ron Sinha on the “Hedonic Treadmill” and Rumination (Breather Episode with Brad)

(Breather) Have you ever wondered just how much physical stress and emotions affect your body? Referencing back to a previous show with Dr. Ron Sinha, who has worked largely in the affluent Silicon Valley area, I talk about how psychological conditions can have a serious impact on your health, regardless of how “big” or “small” whatever problems you’re dealing with might seem. The point is: stress is stress, regardless of the source of that stress - the impact on your health is the same. Which brings me to the related concept of the hedonic treadmill. The hedonic treadmill (or hamster wheel) is a preset thermostat for your own intrinsic level of happiness.  So let’s say someone was wired to be generally unhappy from childhood. If that person wins the lottery and becomes instantly rich, there would be a momentary rush of happiness or a thrill, which over time would return back to your preset thermostat level of happiness.  Studies of lottery winners show that they don’t respond to ordinary situations or everyday events with an inflated level of bliss. The treadmill refers to how individuals are constantly spinning on a wheel where they seek outside pleasures, hoping that will somehow reset their thermostat to a higher level of happiness. “Maybe if I leave this job and join a start-up, run my own business, make more money, get a nicer car, or push my kids harder so I can live through their success, then I’ll be happier…” Angry, dissatisfied, unhappy, selfish people don’t all of a sudden become peaceful, happy, selfless individuals as a result of positive changes in their financial or personal situation. The converse is also true: If you are wired to be happy and more resilient, then sudden adverse changes in your health or your finances may temporarily move your happiness levels lower, but then you snap back closer to your pre-programmed levels. Again, in my neck of the woods, there is a tremendous focus on constantly driving towards external goals to hopefully reset the thermostat.  This rarely ever works. As a matter of fact, it just creates sequentially greater and greater expectations that result in temporary highs, but then you’re back to your preset level of dissatisfaction. “All these years of hard work and sacrifice, yet I still feel like this.” Sound familiar? I’m by no means encouraging you to demotivate yourself or your kids, but for every moment you set a high goal, take time to appreciate all the surrounding moments, achievements, and gifts you take for granted. If you are pushing yourself or your loved ones towards external goals and setting higher and higher expectations while consistently sacrificing nutrition, exercise, sleep, social connection, nature connection, and mindfulness, then you are chaining yourself to the hedonic treadmill and not making progress towards a more fulfilling life. I deliberately have learned to set really low expectations for most events and personal interactions in my life, and it really has made a huge difference for me.  If expectations are not met, no worries, and if they’re met or exceeded, then I feel joy and gratitude. Here are some tips that are seriously helpful when you find yourself faced with this issue: 1) Identify. Label rumination when it happens… “There I go ruminating again.” 2) Categorize. Be familiar with the common rumination movie themes you replay in your head like if-then, great expectations, and social comparisons. 3) Externalize. Grab some popcorn (a handful of nuts would be healthier!) and watch ruminating thoughts like a movie. 4) Detach and Distract. Rumination is sticky and it will pin you to your office chair, your couch or your bed, so you feel helpless and paralyzed.  You literally become a victim or prisoner of your own thoughts. Immediately detach yourself from your rumination environment and then positively distract yourself with exercise, reach out to a friend, read a book you enjoy, do something creative, get out into nature, etc.  Mondays are days I’m most susceptible to rumination and the simple act of working in a public place like a coffee house rather than in my solitary office makes a huge difference. 5) Be Present. Remember I said that ruminating about the past is linked to depression, while ruminations about the future are tied to anxiety.  The space in between is the present and mindfulness practices like meditation help bring you back to your center. 6) Pause and Reflect. Become the wise elder every now and then.  Ask yourself if you’re constantly running on the hedonic treadmill and forcing your family down a similar path.  Prioritize your mind and body and encourage those you love to do the same. Remember, you cannot reset your thermostat through incessant material pursuits and external goal achievements. 7) Get Help. For many, the rumination movies continue to dominate their lives despite using some of the above techniques.  There are past experiences and traumas that have become strongly embedded into our psyche and need to be addressed by a mental health professional.  Unfortunately, seeking help is often considered taboo to the very individuals and cultures that need it the most. However, it’s a necessary step if you want to be able to break free from the things that no longer serve you, and the truth is, we ourselves are often to blame for the cages we find ourselves locked in. Usually, we are the ones who got ourselves there - so, therefore, we are also fully capable of getting ourselves out of whatever restraints and constraints that we’re currently facing. TIMESTAMPS: FOMO is fear of keeping up, fear of missing out. These conditions impact our health. [02:53] Biochemical effects of the brain’s functioning show that all the cells of your body are affected by your thoughts.  [04:38] Studies of lottery winners show that they don’t respond to ordinary situations with an inflated level of bliss. [05:32] Individuals are constantly spinning on a wheel. [07:40] People are striving to reset their happiness thermostat. [11:39] Brad’s tips on overcoming the dangerous adverse consequences of FOMO are listed.  (1) is Identify. (2) categorize; (3) externalize; (4) detach and distract; (5) be present; (6) pause and reflect; [14:22] Set an example for your kids with a healthy mindset. [17:58] Social behaviors are contagious. [18:48]Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.