Reframing Resistance with Becca Silver

Outline and Show NotesReframing Resistance with Becca SilverPower Quote: What’s scary for us may not be scary for them.”Teaser: | I’m really excited for today’s episode. You’ve heard me talk about reframing resistance as feedback by getting curious instead of judgmental. Today’s guest helps us dive deep into what comes next. This is a packed episode and if you aren’t driving you may want to have a notebook handy! | Sponsor Spot 1: I’d like to thank Kaleidoscope Adventures for sponsoring today’s show. Lots of companies can help you organize class trips, but Kaleidoscope helps you organize adventures – because isn’t that what student trips should be? Kaleidscope is a full-service tour company offering a range of adventure opportunities and they excel at customizing trips based on your unique context, needs, and goals. Kaleidoscope offers exceptional travel experiences for students (and their group leaders). Thinking about student travel? Reach out to Kaleidoscope at mykatrip.com Show IntroGuest Bio: | Becca Silver is a resistance specialist who helps school leaders and instructional coaches navigate the human side of change. With more than 20 years in education, she works alongside many of the researchers behind the academic mindset movement, including the scholars who first introduced growth mindset. Becca is the founder of The Whole Educator and host of the Coaching the Whole Educator podcast, where she shares honest conversations and practical strategies for leaders who are trying to move change forward without losing their people. Through her speaking, coaching, and training, she has supported thousands of educators in learning how to diagnose resistance, meet the human needs underneath it, and move beyond surface-level buy-in. Her new book, It Shouldn't Be This Hard: A Framework for Leading Through Resistance, is now available!Warmup questions:We always like to start with a celebration. What are you celebrating today?Is there a story that will help listeners understand why you are doing what you do?Questions/Topics/PromptsI think our frameworks compliment each other beautifully. I think mine is like a stop sign. M=V/E – stop judging and get curious. Your Catalyst Mindsets are the things that explain and can shape the equation. We don’t have to agree on this, we can play with different viewpoints. Resistance=unmet needsShifting from solving their problem to empowering them to solve their problemsLet’s dive into self-efficacy – maybe the closest thing to a magic bullet we have that nobody talks about (?)Maybe we explore a few examples. | Sponsor Spot 2: I want to thank IXL for sponsoring this podcast… Everyone talks about the power of data-driven instruction. But what does that actually look like? Look no further than IXL, the ultimate online learning and teaching platform for K to 12. IXL gives you meaningful insights that drive real progress, and research can prove it. Studies across 45 states show that schools who use IXL outperform other schools on state tests. Educators who use IXL love that they can easily see how their school is performing in real-time to make better instructional decisions.  And IXL doesn’t stop at just data. IXL also brings an entire ecosystem of resources for your teachers, with a complete curriculum, personalized learning plans, and so much more. It’s no wonder that IXL is used in 95 of the top 100 school districts. Ready to join them? Visit ixl.com/assistant to get started.Closing questions:What part of your own leadership are you still trying to get better at?If listeners could take just one thing away from today’s podcast, what would it be?Before we go, is there anything else that you’d like to share with our listeners?Where can people learn more about you and your work…Summary/wrap upGet curiousShould to couldWhat’s unsupported versus missingEfficacy (outcome clarity, attainability belief)Special thanks to the amazing Ranford Almond for the great music on the show. Please support Ranford and the show by checking out his music!Ranford’s homepage: https://ranfordalmond.comRanford’s music on streaming services: https://streamlink.to/ranfordalmond-oldsoulInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/ranfordalmond/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ranfordalmond/Sponsor Links:IXL: http://ixl.com/assistant Kaleidoscope Adventures: https://www.kaleidoscopeadventures.com/the-assistant-principal-podcast-kaleidoscope-adventures/CloseLeadership is a journey and thank you for choosing to walk some of this magical path with me.You can find links to all sorts of stuff in the show notes, including my website https://www.frederickbuskey.com/I love hearing from you. If you have comments or questions, or are interested in having me speak at your school or conference, email me at [email protected] or connect with me on LinkedIn.If you are tired of spending time putting out fires and would rather invest time supporting and growing teachers, consider reading my book, A School Leader’s Guide to Reclaiming Purpose. The book is available on Amazon. You can find links to it, as well as free book study materials on my website at https://www.frederickbuskey.com/reclaiming-purpose.html Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast.Remember the secret to good leadership: Be intentional in choosing how you will show up for others Be fully present Ask reflective questions And then just listen Don’t overcomplicate it, the value is in the listening. Have a great rest of the week!Cheers!Guest Links:Website: www.thewholeeducator.comPo...