Relationship Breakthroughs, Attachment Styles and Shaping Destiny with Desirée Pais

Today, I’m joined by Desirée Pais, the founder of BENSHEN.co. Our conversation unfolds organically and deeply on relationships, how to exist in them as our most authentic selves, and how to clarify what we really want. We explore the difference between fate and destiny, how she created BENSHEN.co, and the roadmap to healing that triggers can provide. Desirée and I share what it means for us to be in long-term relationships. We both had to work through a lot of trauma, shadow work, the wounded feminine aspects of self, and shame to get to where we are today. Desirée observes that most people play out childhood patterns in relationships, particularly by not knowing exactly what they want and what they’ll accept. She stresses the importance of shadow work and overwriting subconscious patterning to access the core of our relationship desires. Her platform BENSHEN.co helps support this kind of personal growth, and she also details additional effective healing modalities. We share our experiences of navigating energy dynamics, approaching big conversations with partners, and how partnerships can lead to personal growth breakthroughs. Relationships have a special way of drawing out triggers that we may not know the root of. Having a self care practice is crucial in building a relationship with yourself so that you know how to work through them. Many of us hold suppressed emotions that subconsciously control our behavior and desires. Trust me, the work is always worth it. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or on your favorite podcast platform. Topics Covered:Desire and pleasure through the lower chakras“Spark” and commitment in long-term relationships Energy dynamics, personal growth, and breaking generational patterns Our biggest relationship breakthroughsWorking with triggers to heal Soulmates, fate vs destiny, and why Desirée chose to soften The benshen acupuncture point Resources Mentioned:Sign up for the BENSHEN Summer Retreat hereUse ‘THERAINBOPODCAST’ for 15% off at checkout on Rainbo productsAttached by Amir Levine and Rachel HellerThe Workout WitchTeal SwanGuest Info: Follow Desirée Pais on Instagram: @desiree.pais Follow BENSHEN on Instagram: @benshen.coLearn more on BENSHEN’s website: benshen.coFollow Me:Follow me on Instagram: @tonyapapanikolove Follow Rainbo on Instagram: @rainbomushrooms Shop Rainbo: rainbo.com Learn more, dive in, join us for An Ethereal Reset 2026 in Greece. Instructions to Win a Bundle of Rainbo Products - Leave us Ratings and Reviews:(Or watch the video instructions here)Go to Spotify and search “The Rainbo Podcast”Follow the Show and Rate the Show on Spotify, and take a screenshotGo to Apple PodcastsSearch “The Rainbo Podcast”Scroll down past a few episodes until you get to the “Write a Review” sectionWrite your review and screenshot before you hit Submit, as Apple’s system can take a while to publishSend the Spotify screenshot and Apple review screenshot to [email protected] sure to go back to Apple Podcasts and hit submit on your reviewWe’ll pull a winner at the end of the month once we verify that your ratings/review went through to win a bundle of tinctures!We’ll contact you if you win so you can select your bundle of choiceCheck out all our bundles at https://rainbo.com/pages/bundles. Thanks and good luck!