人际：有什么有效但礼貌的方式来挫败一个人的自负

What is a polite but effective way to deflate someone's ego?Maria Supplisson, Literature student, humanist, film devourer.Updated Aug 19Being both calm and direct, and above all, keeping eye-contact with that person. There might be a miraculous catchphrase but attitude is still the strongest persuasive feature there is.You’ll be surprised how a calm tone and a steady eye-contact can quickly destabilize anyone who might think they are semi-gods. Just hold on to your argument and formulate it straightforwardly and tranquilly.I usually ignore people with too strong an ego, but when I see someone trying to take down another person or even myself purely to flatter their reflection in the mirror, I can lose my shit effectively.Reminding people that they’re not semi-gods is fairly easy as long as you stay aware that this is all stemming from an insecurity. No, this is not leading up to the suggestion of throwing their insecurity into their face. This is neither polite nor noble, it can be satisfying but it won’t work in the long run as it will only make them grow more egoistical.No, once you see that someone is too insecure to behave with respect for other people, someone who constantly seeks for a way to lift themselves above the crowd by looking down on others, well in that case I can assure you that whatever you decide to tell them will work wonders as long as you are talking back in a calm, unshaken voice.Calmness and eye contact are signs they will rapidly receive which mean that 1) You’re not taking any crap from them no matter how glorious they think they are. 2) You do not consider them your superior and they will have to consider you their equal if they want to take the conversation any further.If that doesn’t work and they keep trying to grow taller than they are, turn around just as calmly. Beyond any catchphrase, staying collected really is the best way to handle anyone of that sort. It will make them boil, and then hopefully they will realize that their behavior is leading nowhere and they need to change it.