Repetition Compulsion

The Repetition Compulsion is the phenomenon where relationship partners are chosen with specific abuse patterns that are repeating a childhood dynamics of abuse or neglect. The unconscious drive, according to Sigmund Freud, is done in order to gain mastery over one’s inner world where they once felt helpless. It is also done in an attempt to recreate an happier ending where in the past there was abuse. Needless to say, the compulsion does not lead to satisfaction and resolution and often ends the same way as it did in childhood, with disappointments and often similar abuse. It is imperative to identify the patterns of dysfunction that stem from past abuse in order to attract healthier and more sustainable relationships. By healing childhood wounds and identifying and healing dysfunctional relationship patterns, abuse victims are able to create a life with connection that is void of repeating old trauma.