Resistance vs. Allowing

In this episode of Awakening Process 101, Louise and I explore the universal tug-of-war between resistance and allowing. Drawing from David Hawkins’ Letting Go, personal anecdotes, and simple self-awareness practices, we discuss why letting go feels so hard yet brings so much freedom. Whether learning to surrender in a storm or embracing our children’s individuality, we reflect on how small shifts in awareness can create profound changes. This conversation is a candid, heartfelt look at how the human tendency to resist often limits us, and how allowing can unlock ease, lightness, and connection in our lives. (00:00) Introduction and theme: Resistance vs Allowing – Pernilla and Louise introduce the episode, focusing on resistance challenges and the ease that allowing can bring.(01:45) Why we resist change and the concept of allowing – A discussion on why humans naturally resist change, despite knowing it’s inevitable.(03:34) Exploring resistance to letting go of even good things – Reflection on why letting go of things we enjoy can also feel difficult.(04:02) A quote from David Hawkins’ Letting Go – Pernilla reads an insightful passage about surrendering and the lightness it brings.(06:30) Awareness as the first step in addressing resistance – The importance of recognizing resistance as the initial step toward change.(10:12) Personal story: Surrendering during a stressful travel experience – Pernilla shares a story of letting go of control during a challenging journey.(15:17) Recognizing resistance in the body and asking "Why?" – Insights into how resistance manifests physically and emotionally, and how to question it.(18:02) Practical questions to explore resistance and allowing – Key questions to help identify and address what we’re resisting and why.(20:51) The importance of consistent practice in letting go – Emphasizing the value of daily practices for fostering surrender and ease.(23:03) Small steps to experience lightness and freedom – How small, intentional steps can lead to a sense of emotional and mental relief.(25:04) Journaling as a tool for awareness and growth – The benefits of journaling as a way to track and understand resistance over time.(26:33) Parenting and projection: Letting children find their own path – Pernilla shares lessons on allowing children to explore their individuality without projection.(30:29) Overcoming fear of judgment and embracing individuality – A reflection on how fear of judgment influences resistance and limits self-expression.(38:09) Key questions: "What am I resisting and why?" – Revisiting the importance of asking these questions to uncover deeper insights.(39:10) Closing story: The monkey and the banana metaphor – A powerful metaphor illustrating how holding on can keep us trapped.(39:58) Final thoughts: Awareness and allowing as daily practices – Closing thoughts on making awareness and allowing a consistent part of life.