Restoring Confidence: Tackling ED and Performance Anxiety

Overcoming Sexual Performance AnxietyIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant discusses the often taboo topic of erectile dysfunction, sexual performance anxiety, and the fear of being broken with guest Shay Doran. Shay, a coach who helps men overcome these issues, shares his personal journey and insights on why ED is rarely just about the body but more about mindset. They discuss the societal pressures and beliefs that contribute to performance anxiety, the impact on relationships, and the importance of seeking help. Shay also explores the harmful cycle of quick fixes and the cultural differences in perceptions of masculinity and sexual performance. The episode emphasizes that these challenges are normal and that men aren't alone in their struggles.00:00 The Influence of Porn on Sex Education00:36 Introduction to Real Men Feel and Today's Topic00:52 Meet Shay Doran: Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety01:43 Shay's Personal Journey with Performance Anxiety04:24 The Root Causes of Performance Anxiety06:31 The Performative Mindset and Its Impact07:17 Distinguishing Between Medical and Mindset Issues10:06 The Trap of Quick Fixes and Marketing Scams13:10 The Importance of Seeking Help and Guidance17:37 The Relational Impact of Erectile Dysfunction20:31 Addressing the Elephant in the Room21:11 Non-Judgmental Support and Communication22:10 Working with Men on Performance Issues23:19 Unique Challenges for Gay and Bi Men25:43 Decoupling Masculine Identity from Sexual Performance28:26 Common Aha Moments in Therapy30:30 Cultural Differences in Masculinity and Performance Anxiety32:01 Normalizing Sexual Performance Fluctuations34:10 Impact of Porn on Sexual Performance34:56 Connecting with Shay Doran36:14 Beyond Sexual Performance: Living Authentically38:28 Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with ShayShay Doran — https://shay-doran.comYouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@shay-doranConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 386