Restriction to over-eating: listener question

I had (what I thought was) an epiphany about restriction.  I have a lot of thoughts around being restricted or told what or what not to do or to eat.  So I thought, hmmm. Maybe I think of restriction as a problem.  My mom controlled what I ate, along with my family and even my dad up until he was 90!.    So if restriction is a problem, my solution was no restrictions.  I gave up restricting myself with any foods or food groups.  Trying to understand if this was even what might fit into this idea has still confused me.  I am not certain I understand well, and not even sure I am explaining this with clarity.  I also know I see (my) overeating as a big problem.  So if overeating is a problem and then the solution is to restrict, there we go with the restriction.  But here it is a solution.  Can you take this confusing question and make it any more clear to me using these examples of overeating/restriction/no restrictions?