Rewind: Wilder on Closed Triads, Poly Families & Living Authentically, EP. 161

Some conversations are simply too good to leave in the archives.This week I'm re-releasing one of my favorite early episodes with my dear friend, Wilder. Even years later, this conversation feels just as relevant. We dive into what it actually looks like to build a life outside of traditional relationship norms, from joining an already-married couple to creating a thriving polyamorous family together.Wilder shares her experience of living in a closed triad, navigating the assumptions people make about triads, unpacking monogamous conditioning, and raising children in a loving, intentional polyamorous household.Whether you're curious about polyamory, already practicing ethical non-monogamy, or simply interested in questioning the relationship scripts we've all inherited, this conversation is full of honesty, vulnerability, and hope.Wilder lives in Olalla with her partners, their children, and an ever-growing collection of chickens, ducks, adventures, and beautiful chaos.In This Episode What a closed triad actually is - and what people often misunderstand about them  Why labels can be helpful...and where they can become limiting  The emotional journey of transitioning from monogamy to polyamory  Authenticity, self-love, and creating relationships that fit who you really are  Unlearning monogamous programming  Navigating jealousy with curiosity instead of fear  Raising children in a polyamorous family  Imagining new possibilities for love, family, and partnership  The difference between control and trust  Choosing authenticity over societal expectations Timestamps2:19 – What is a closed triad?4:20 – Labels and identity8:24 – Transitioning into polyamory15:03 – Authenticity and self-love18:59 – Monogamous programming and triad dynamics33:24 – Jealousy44:49 – Raising kids in a polyamorous family52:44 – The possibilities of the future54:41 – Control versus trust1:00:08 – Living authenticallyIf you enjoyed this conversation, I'd love for you to share it with someone who's questioning the relationship "rules" they've always been taught. Every time we hear real stories from real people, it becomes a little easier to imagine that there are many ways to build a loving, connected life.❤️ Thanks for listening to Nope, We're Not Monogamous.Send us Fan MailSupport the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website:  https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237