EPISODE · Jul 31, 2025 · 57 MIN
Rub Me The Right Way: Where the oil flows - without expectation
from Go Have Good Sex featuring The Christian Sexpert · host Angela Griffith
Does touch in your marriage feel like a landmine? You never know what is going to blow up in your face?In this episode, I sit down with massage therapist and Holy-Spirit-anointed healer Maude Carter to talk about the importance of non-sexual, expectation-free touch in marriage. We explore how our bodies carry trauma, how purity culture distorted even innocent forms of affection, and why “touched out” isn’t just a mom thing—it’s a nervous system thing.This one is for the woman who feels like every shoulder rub turns into an obligation. For the man who wants to connect without always initiating sex. For the couple ready to reclaim physical connection that heals instead of takes.Maude shares her decades of experience in therapeutic massage and how it intersects with faith, motherhood, marriage, and trauma-informed care. Spoiler: not all intimacy ends in sex—and that’s exactly the point.🔥 We talk about:Why non-sexual touch is crucial for intimacy and co-regulationWhat “touched out” actually meansCreating safety in your body (and your relationship)And how Holy Spirit + human touch = real healing✨ BONUS for Patreon Members ✨Want to learn how to rub them the right way?We recorded an exclusive video teaching simple, beginner-friendly massage techniques couples can use at home—no fancy tools, no weird oils, just your hands and intention.👉 Join my Patreon for access!You can follow Maude on her TikTok, as she gets it set up!If you are in Northeast Ohio, you can book a massage with Maude!And y'all know I'm going to give you links to things we discussed!Come As You Are By Emily NagoskiSanctified Sexism: Effects of Purity Culture Tropes on White Christian Women’s Marital and Sexual Satisfaction and Experience of Sexual PainTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! WebsiteBook Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp Note: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
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Does touch in your marriage feel like a landmine? You never know what is going to blow up in your face?In this episode, I sit down with massage therapist and Holy-Spirit-anointed healer Maude Carter to talk about the importance of non-sexual, expectation-free touch in marriage. We explore how our bodies carry trauma, how purity culture distorted even innocent forms of affection, and why “touched out” isn’t just a mom thing—it’s a nervous system thing.This one is for the woman who feels like every shoulder rub turns into an obligation. For the man who wants to connect without always initiating sex. For the couple ready to reclaim physical connection that heals instead of takes.Maude shares her decades of experience in therapeutic massage and how it intersects with faith, motherhood, marriage, and trauma-informed care. Spoiler: not all intimacy ends in sex—and that’s exactly the point.🔥 We talk about:Why non-sexual touch is crucial for intimacy and co-regulationWhat “touched out” actually meansCreating safety in your body (and your relationship)And how Holy Spirit + human touch = real healing✨ BONUS for Patreon Members ✨Want to learn how to rub them the right way?We recorded an exclusive video teaching simple, beginner-friendly massage techniques couples can use at home—no fancy tools, no weird oils, just your hands and intention.👉 Join my Patreon for access!You can follow Maude on her TikTok, as she gets it set up!If you are in Northeast Ohio, you can book a massage with Maude!And y'all know I'm going to give you links to things we discussed!Come As You Are By Emily NagoskiSanctified Sexism: Effects of Purity Culture Tropes on White Christian Women’s Marital and Sexual Satisfaction and Experience of Sexual PainTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! WebsiteBook Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp Note: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
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