Running and Screaming

In this portion of the conversation, Maurice Harker, Director of Life Changing Services, delves into the meaning of when a woman says, "I don't feel safe," and how men can respond effectively to address this concern. He starts by using the analogy of airplane safety and how passengers may not always feel safe even if the airplane is indeed safe. Maurice emphasizes that it's not the man's responsibility to make the woman feel safe, but rather to create an environment of emotional safety. Maurice suggests that when a woman expresses that she doesn't feel safe, she may not have the tools to check if the relationship is safe. The emotional safety work, they note, is for the woman to do, and men shouldn't take on the responsibility of constantly reassuring their partners. Instead, men should focus on making themselves emotionally safe by working on their personal development and addressing their emotional triggers. Maurice addresses the possibility of false alarms versus real alarms in a woman's mind, comparing this concept to passengers on an airplane who might react differently to turbulence based on past experiences. He encourages men to be empathetic and understanding of the challenges women face with the barrage of emotional alarms and triggers. The segment continues with a breakdown of different sections related to emotional safety, relational safety, and the challenges women might face in terms of intrusive thoughts and past betrayals affecting their sense of safety. Maurice suggests that men create a blueprint for themselves to become emotionally safe and trustworthy, rather than trying to blueprint the entire relationship to feel safe. He emphasizes that men should lead by example and demonstrate that they are actively working to be a safe and trustworthy partner. The episode concludes by underlining the importance of men taking control of their own personal development and understanding these concepts, and then effectively communicating that understanding to their partners. Maurice encourages men to approach this with empathy, patience, and a willingness to educate their partners about their own growth journey. Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/what-is-betrayal-trauma-how-does-it-impact-me/ Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DT-llENfyvc Check out Betrayal Trauma for Dummies: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/betrayal-trauma-for-men/