S03:E06 - Is People Pleasing Holding You Back? | Selina Yankson

Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Growth Mindset Guide Community⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠_________Ever wonder why you're always available for people who never seem to be available for you? In this eye-opening episode of The YOU Review, host Selina Yankson tackles the exhausting cycle of people pleasing that's quietly destroying careers and personal wellbeing. She reveals the uncomfortable truth about why you say yes when you should say no, and how this pattern often stems from childhood conditioning that follows you into the workplace.The episode explores the insidious nature of people pleasing; from the fear of conflict that drives it, to the burnout and resentment it inevitably creates. You'll discover practical strategies for breaking free, including the powerful "unavailable for a week" exercise and learning to recognise when helping others is actually hindering your growth. Through a compelling case study of a senior female executive who nearly sabotaged her career by constantly rescuing colleagues, Selina demonstrates how people pleasing can masquerade as being helpful whilst actually undermining professional success.Key Takeaways:Why "no" is a complete sentence and how to use itThe childhood patterns that create people-pleasing adultsPractical boundary-setting strategies for workplace situationsHow to recognise when helping others hurts your careerThis isn't about becoming selfish—it's about understanding that saying no to others means saying yes to yourself. Listen now to learn how to set boundaries that protect your energy, and why putting on your own oxygen mask first isn't just sound advice, it's essential for survival in today's demanding world.Connect with Selina Yankson:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#theyoureview #selinayankson #personaldevelopment #peoplepleasing #boundaries #burnoutprevention #workplaceboundaries #selfcare #careerdevelopment #leadership