S1:E3 – CARY JACOBSON "Stop Letting the Court Control Your Divorce"

Divorce doesn’t have to be a courtroom war. In this episode of Divorcing Strong, Becky Sampson (Bulldog Becky Brochovich) sits down with Carrie Jacobson, Esq., founder of Jacobson Family Law, to break down a calmer, smarter path forward: mediation and collaborative divorce—so you can protect your peace, reduce conflict for your kids, and reach a durable agreement without letting the court control your timeline. Carrie shares why litigation often fuels unnecessary stress and delay, what mediators actually do (and don’t do), and the biggest mistakes people make at the start of divorce—like hiring the wrong kind of attorney for the outcome they want. You’ll also learn how to keep emotions from driving legal decisions, how to use the court strategically only when necessary, and why judges respect good-faith efforts to resolve things peacefully. In this episode, you’ll learn: What mediation and collaborative divorce really mean—and how they differ from litigation Why you should negotiate first (when possible) so the court doesn’t control the pace How to “compartmentalize” emotions so you can negotiate with clarity What to do when your spouse is uncooperative—without instantly escalating the conflict Why the right attorney “fit” matters (and why you should interview before you hire) About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong