S1:E8 – JILL KAUFMAN "The #1 Mindset Shift to Thrive Through Divorce"

Divorce doesn’t have to destroy your family—but conflict can. In this episode of Divorcing Strong, Becky Sampson (Bulldog Becky Brochovich) sits down with Jill Kaufman, a divorce coach who brings uncommon depth to the table: she’s a licensed therapist, certified mediator, co-parenting expert, and parenting educator who has helped families rebuild for over two decades. Jill also shares the hard-earned truth behind her work—during her own divorce, even as a therapist, she “did everything wrong,” felt isolated, and learned firsthand how easy it is to lose your voice when attorneys do all the communicating. This conversation is all about helping parents move through divorce with less damage, more dignity, and a clearer path forward—especially when kids are involved. Jill breaks down why research shows the biggest predictor of how kids do isn’t divorce itself, but the relationship between parents, and how to shift from surviving to truly thriving after divorce. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why going straight to attorneys can put both spouses on defense (and drive up costs) How Jill finally settled her own divorce by advocating directly and focusing on what mattered most The #1 truth about kids and divorce: conflict is what harms them most A myth to drop: the relationship with your co-parent won’t magically improve after divorce How to handle two different parenting styles across two homes (and what you can control) What kids’ emotional outbursts really mean—and why not taking it personally matters Why it’s worth doing the work to be in the same room again someday (for kids and grandkids) Jill’s definition of “thriving” and how to know when you’ve turned the corner About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong