S1 · Ep 10: Self-Criticism and Self-Compassion — Changing the Inner Dialogue | The MindSpa Podcast

Send us Fan MailThe most persistent critic many of us face is not outside of us, it is the voice inside our own mind. In this episode, Tina Wilston and Michelle Massunken explore how negative self-talk develops, why it can feel so automatic, and how self-compassion can be practised in a grounded and realistic way.The conversation examines how early experiences of criticism can become internalized over time, shaping the way we interpret mistakes, relationships, and even our sense of worth. Tina Wilston and Michelle Massunken reflect on the common paradox of offering patience and encouragement to others while holding ourselves to far harsher standards.They also explore how negative thought patterns can function as protective mechanisms. When we believe we are inadequate or unlovable, we may begin to filter experiences in ways that reinforce those beliefs. Understanding this pattern helps us step back from automatic thoughts and respond more intentionally.Throughout the episode, Tina Wilston and Michelle Massunken discuss practical approaches to building self-compassion, including the “best friend” lens, shifting how we respond to mistakes, and learning to ask, “How can I grow from this?” rather than defining ourselves by perceived failure.This episode reminds listeners that change does not come from one breakthrough moment, but from steady practice. Even gently challenging one critical thought each day can begin to reshape our inner dialogue and support long-term emotional wellbeing.The MindSpa PodcastThoughtful conversations about mental health, relationships, identity, healing, grounded in clinical expertise and steady human insight.HostsTina Wilston, M.Ed., Registered Psychotherapist Co-Owner, MindSpa Mental Health CentreLinkedIn, Instagram, FacebookMichelle Massunken, MSW, RSWCo-Owner, MindSpa Mental Health CentreLinkedIn, Instagram, FacebookMindSpa Mental Health CentreOttawa - Kanata & Gloucesterthemindspa.caLinkedIn, instagramListen onApple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube