S1 · Ep 5: AITA Scenarios — Guilt, Grief And Relationship Ultimatums | The MindSpa Podcast

Send us Fan MailSetting boundaries should not leave you feeling guilty, yet many people question whether they are “the bad guy” when they begin prioritizing their mental wellbeing.In this episode of The MindSpa Podcast, hosts Tina Wilston and Michelle Massunken explore several “Am I the Ahole?”-style scenarios**, where people are left wondering whether setting a boundary makes them selfish.Scenario 1: Stepping Back From Wedding DutiesA bridesmaid experiencing burnout feels she needs to step back from wedding responsibilities. Tina and Michelle discuss the difference between self-care and perceived selfishness, and how guilt can sometimes cloud our judgment when we begin setting healthier limits.Scenario 2: Grief After MiscarriageA woman grieving a miscarriage feels unable to attend her sister’s baby shower. The conversation explores the complexity of pregnancy loss, the shame that can surround it, and the challenges that arise when grief intersects with family expectations.Scenario 3: Therapy Before Moving In TogetherA relationship ultimatum raises an important question: is asking a partner to attend therapy before moving in together unreasonable? Tina and Michelle discuss the stigma around mental health support and how therapy can be reframed as an investment in personal and relational wellbeing.Throughout the episode, Tina Wilston and Michelle Massunken reflect on how to communicate boundaries clearly, recognize emotional limits, and navigate the reactions of others when those limits are expressed.Together, they explore how boundaries can protect wellbeing while still leaving space for compassion and connection in relationships.The MindSpa PodcastThoughtful conversations about mental health, relationships, identity, healing, grounded in clinical expertise and steady human insight.HostsTina Wilston, M.Ed., Registered Psychotherapist Co-Owner, MindSpa Mental Health CentreLinkedIn, Instagram, FacebookMichelle Massunken, MSW, RSWCo-Owner, MindSpa Mental Health CentreLinkedIn, Instagram, FacebookMindSpa Mental Health CentreOttawa - Kanata & Gloucesterthemindspa.caLinkedIn, instagramListen onApple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube