S1E9 People Pleasing x Libido with Sexologist Lucy Rowett

This episode confronts the deeply-ingrained taboo that women’s sexual desire should be effortless, constant, and primarily for the benefit of others.We'll talk about the sex you might have:* out of obligation* to “check it off your to-do list”* to “talk yourself into”The Taboo* We’re told that a “good” woman is sexually available—but not “too much.”* We’re taught that if we don’t want sex, something must be wrong with us.* We’re conditioned to see our sexuality as a duty, not a source of personal pleasure.The GuestLucy Rowett is a certified sexologist and sex coach who helps women and people with vulvas let go of sexual shame.📍 Location: Vienna, Austria🆓 Workbook: How To Rock Your Bedroom and Ask For What You REALLY (really, really), Want In Bed🎧 Podcast: The Naked and Unashamed LifeTime Stamps* 4:35: Purity culture and sexual conditioning* 8:06: People-pleasing and burnout* 13:18: The science of stress x sex* 16:23: Why some women struggle with desire* 20:37: The fawn responseResources + Links🔗 Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It by Cindy Darnell🔗 Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski🔗 Esther Perel, psychotherapist🔗 Women Who Work Too Much by Tamu Thomas🔗 Masters of Sex (2013-2016) This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit micahlarsen.substack.com