S2 E22 When I Feel Judgy

Part 2 from last week's episode on feeling judged! When we feel judged, we often will simultaneously find ourselves in a space of judging. Whether we are the "judgor" or the "judgee," we end up experiencing judgement. We are calling this the "pit of judgement." MIND: What am I revealing about myself with this judgement? When we judge another, we aren't defining them, rather we are defining ourselves. It can reveal to us something that we are judging ourselves about, or something that is unhealed in us, or something that we feel insecure or shameful about. Being curious and even amused by our own judgments of others can be instructive because it's like showing ourselves a mirror --it can teach us something about what is going on inside of us. BODY: How can I re-write this story to feel compassionate? Rather than judging ourselves for be judgmental, this is an opportunity to re-wire our thoughts or re-write the story that we have created. It's an intentional shift in our minds to find compassion. I like to think of people in terms of their future self --the version of them that has learned all the lessons and has become wise and glorified, because it helps me see the current moments with less judgement and more understanding and patience and love. Whatever we are in judgment about, is actually just a moment in their story, a blip in the eternal scheme of things. Having this perspective feels a lot better and gives space for me to feel better about myself too. "Don't judge me because I sin differently than you." -Dieter F. Uchtdorf PURPOSE: How can I shift from judgement to discernment? I used to believe that loving and accepting all meant to allow all into my space. Over the years, I discovered that there's a difference between being loving and accepting and simultaneously using wise judgement or discernment to choose what influences to allow into my life space. It's totally possible to love and accept other people who we don't agree with. We don't have to hate or shun or push away in order to choose not to have something as an influence in our lives.