S2 E40 | Performed vs. Genuine Empathy
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Performed vs Genuine Empathy He did everything by the book. Eye contact, no defensiveness, all the right words. And she told him it felt like a script. Roy explains the difference between a man who has learned the language of empathy and a man who has built the capacity to feel it. He looks at why image management, a skill most deceptive men mastered, carries straight into recovery. Then he walks through five signs that separate performed empathy from the real thing, and one tool for men: replay each hard conversation within 24 hours and run it through five questions, keeping the answers to yourself. Timestamps [00:00] Welcome [00:39] "You're just reading a script" [03:00] Today's episode: five signs [03:30] Performed empathy vs empathy capacity [05:00] Why deception makes men good at performing [06:45] The Integrity Circle [07:30] Sign 1: Who's watching? [09:15] Sign 2: Where does it point? [11:15] Sign 3: What comes first? [13:15] Sign 4: What does it cost? [15:15] Sign 5: How specific is it? [17:30] The tool: replay the conversation [19:00] Closing Learn more about the Integrity Circle and the Joy Recovery Academy at joy-recovery.com. An Integrity Circle membership includes a free Academy seat for your partner.
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