S2 | E9: How to Define Success on Your Terms with Ashley Fernandez

Are you doing all the things externally yet feeling like something is missing?What if you could do something where you feel so aligned and pumped up everyday that it lights your soul on fire vs wasting your time is a job that doesn’t fulfill you and doesn’t give you what you want bc you’re trying to measure success for external validation? I know, #dreamlife. These are some questions we’ll be unpacking today on Seeing Your Inner Brilliance with my friend and Career Coach, Ashley Fernandez. Have you ever found yourself thinking: “I should stay in this career because it’s what I went to school for,” “I should have a 5 year plan,” “I should join this program because THAT is the thing that will change the game for me??"I know I have! And it wasn’t until I could no longer maintain the misery I was feeling in my career that I decided enough was enough. For Ashley, her catalyst for going from unfulfilled to fulfilled was when her mom was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. When do we all claim a life of fulfillment for ourselves? When we do all of us female powerhouses claim the life we desire and deserve? When do stop designing our life around what it looks like on the outside?And when do all make this change or at least admit to yourself that you’re going to make a change and choose more inner success, fulfillment, and loving yourself enough to go against the grain to follow your passion… Then what? Because anytime we want to make a shift, it freaks out our conscious mind. It’s used to keep us safe. It has a doctorate in safety, comfortability. It scores a 6 on its performance review. We have to train it to work with us rather than against us. Because if you’re trying to lean into maybe doing something entirely new, shifting your life in a way that hasn’t been done before in your family, or stopping the endless, exhausting belief that success equals your achievements, # of clients, amount of podcast downloads, digits on your paycheck, etc, you are shocking your nervous system. It’s good… it’s so good. But the unfamiliar is our mind’s worst enemy. It's so important for us to learn how to get our mind on board with what you’re doing or it’ll spiral you into second guessing yourself at every turn, doubting you’re worthy or capable of going in the direction you feel called to go in vs continue the path you think you logically need to go in. Tune into to hear how Ashley went from doing it all because she felt like she had to... to doing it all from a place of passion and being lit up. Ashley is a mom of two boys, Recruiter with a Fortune 500 company, and Career Coach for high-achieving women. She specializes in helping women uncover what is holding them back from designing a career and a life they don't want to run away from. If you want to gain clarity, increase your confidence, and own your career development, connect with her are on IG and LinkedIn.Additional resources mentioned in this episode:Discover your unique Inner Power Archetype - a free quiz to help you discover the truth about yourself - that you have power and were designed a special way on purpose, so you can experience the authentic, sSupport the showLove what you heard? Share your thoughts with me! DM me on IG or shoot me an email at [email protected]. Don't forget, you can also leave a review right here to let me know what resonated with you the most. Looking forward to hearing from you!Talk soon,CharlseyCONNECT WITH ME:Instagram: @charlseychildersYouTube: @charlseychildersWebsite: www.charlseychilders.comDid something in particular resonate with you? Would love to hear it! Just leave a review right here and I'll be sure to get back to you.Talk soon,Charlsey