S2 Episode 2 MARRIAGE Got Pain? Flip it to Peace

  So many times, there is an underlying pain that we carry that affects our relationships. It can be from family of origin, past relationships…or even the present. Gil and Brenda talk about a new way to look at pain. Not so much as an enemy but as a teacher. By using the acronym PAIN, you’ll gain a new “Perspective”, hopefully not be “Apathetic,” learn how to “Validate” and “Negotiate” through the pain. You will see how to flip the pain into peace in your relationship. Remember, your partner/spouse IS NOT the enemy! Action Steps: 1. Quiet Yourself Ask yourself, where is the pain coming from? (family of origin, past relationships, the present relationship, distorted thinking (i.e. I can’t /won’t be            loved, or I can’t trust any one and/or believing a lie) 2. How can I gently move toward the flip side? Maybe having your spouse listen to this podcast you can be on the same page. Extend understanding and grace. 3. Find a mentor couple, counselor or coach to help you sift through the pain and find resolution. This could be individually or together with your spouse.   Peanut Butter reference is on a video we did on our site called Anger and Peanut Butter https://gilandbrenda.com/relationship-marriage-videos/ #gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp #friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam #RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast www.gilandbrenda.com Contact us at [email protected]   We offer counseling and coaching services. Check out our website for more free Podcasts and videos to encourage/equip your relationship!