S2 Episode 4 - Reframing Pregnancy Loss.

In Episode 4 of Season 2, Natalie & Chelsea sit down with Emma Calderon to discuss fertility, her journey to conceive after pregnancy loss, and motherhood, and how her mindset impacted her journey.   Show Notes: Hosts:   - Natalie M. - Chelsea M. Timestamps: **00:00** - Introduction  **00:31** - Beginning of Episode - Guest Intro of Emma Calderon. **02:22** - Natalie asks Emma to take us back to the start of her Motherhood journey. **06:30** - Natalie asks Emma when she reframed her first pregnancy as a “gift”. **09:45** - Natalie asks Emma how she reframed her feelings of shame, guilt, etc around the loss of her first pregnancy. Did she use a specific process, see a therapist, take time off from work, etc.? **16:08** - Natalie asks Emma how she addressed her feelings of isolation within her marriage. **17:35** - Natalie asks Emma to take us through her second pregnancy. **22:47** - Chelsea asks Emma if there was a piece of advice that she received that really resonated with/helped her. **23:41** - Natalie asks Emma what the least helpful piece of advice was that she received and what makes people say these kinds of things.  **27:34** - Natalie asks Emma what other methods or processes she used to manage her stress at this time. **33:04** - Break **33:43** - Chelsea asks Emma how cultivating a mindset of being able to, “surrender to something that is not in her control” has helped in mothering her twin boys. **37:54** - Natalie asks Emma if she ever thought mothering wouldn’t come naturally to her.  **41:55** - Natalie asks Emma if motherhood has changed her as a person and/or how she moves through life now.  **44:32** - Natalie asks Emma if when she looks back on everything that has happened, would she choose to do anything differently. **46:04** - Chelsea asks Emma if there is a word that captures her journey or a word that enabled her to navigate these challenges. **48:07** - Closing **48:57** - End of Episode **49:14** - Stay Tuned **49:52** - Outro Key Takeaways: 1. “Fixed Mindset”: Belief that abilities, talents, and traits are fixed or inherent and cannot be significantly changed. Example: Avoiding challenges for fear of failure. 2. “Growth Mindset”: Belief that abilities, talents, and traits can be developed and improved through effort and learning.  Example: Embracing challenges as opportunities to grow. 3. **Tips for Cultivating a Growth Mindset** Self-Awareness - Identify Your Fixed Mindset Triggers: Recognize the situations that trigger a fixed mindset (e.g., challenges, setbacks, or criticism). - Reflect: Make it a habit to reflect on your thoughts and feelings regularly, identifying instances where a fixed mindset held you back. Change Your Language - Switch Your Language: Instead of saying “I can’t do this” or “I’ll never . . .,” say “I can’t do this yet,” or “I am moving towards . . . .” - Embrace Constructive Feedback:  When you or others fail, #failforward by focusing on what can be learned from the experience. Reframe Challenges and Setbacks - Stretch Goals:  Set an objective that pushes you out of your comfort zone. - Reframe Failures: View setbacks as opportunities for growth, not as a validation of an inability or shortcoming. Embrace Feedback and Prioritize Learning Over Validation - Constructive Criticism:  Actively seek out feedback that helps you improve or refine your skills. - Encourage Open Dialogue: Create an environment or cultivate relationships where open and constructive feedback is welcomed and regular. - Value the Process: Prioritize learning and improving over success or perfection - Focus on Yourself: Prioritize yourself, focus on your personal development, and celebrate your achievements.  Avoid seeking approval or validation from others. Additional Resources: To be in touch with Emma, please feel free to DM her on IG @em_clad or email us at [email protected]  Connect with Us: - The Daily Reframe Website - Instagram - TikTok - Threads