S3 Ep6: Kier Gaines On Navigating New Friendships, Nurturing Older Friendships and Staying Curious About What Relationships Teach Us About Ourselves

On this week’s episode of human2human with Stacy Ike, we have licensed therapist, father, husband, and thought leader, Kier Gaines! Kier and Stacy dive deep into the curiosity of friendships: how they change over the years, updating your friends about your life changes, and the excitement of attending friend therapy. SHOW NOTES | KEY TAKEAWAYS: 00:00 - Intro 01:14 - Song of the week 01:21 - Book of the week 01:25 - Reflection Question - How have you shown up for your friendships in the past and how would you like to show up in your friendships moving forward? 02:07 - Kier talks about making new friendships in 2022  05:18 - What happens when you’re bothered by something a friend did but you don’t address it at that moment? 09:00 - Season Question - Have you learned anything about yourself through friendships? 12:58 - Kier dives into updating each other on our new operating systems within a relationship 14:35 - “You can’t measure the amount of change that’s happening in a person” - Kier Gaines 14:55 - Why do we oversimplify the concept of relationships?  16:00 - How to trust your friend’s reflections of you 16:44 - How to respect a person for who they are 18:51 - “Giving people the benefit of the doubt through growth” - Kier Gaines 20:09 - Are expectations in friendships a problem?  21:20 - Kier talks about taking personal responsibility in your relationships  22:30 - Kier speaks on turning a close friendship into an acquaintanceship  28:08 - Kier talks about one of his favorite therapists @kobecampbell_ 28:17 - Kier dives into doing the work versus doing self-care  29:17 - What ingredients make up a quality friendship?  36:06 - What does doing the work look like in relationships?  36:44 - Kier talks about why therapy is important and being realistic about your journey to self-awareness 38:19 - Kier speaks to the importance of friendship therapy 40:00 - Kier talks about the difference between men and women within the mental health space 42:38 - Honest Gems  What is something they don't tell us about being a good friend? What is something they don't tell us about personal growth within friendships? What is something they don't tell us about navigating life with transitions to win friendships?  48:45 - Kier on making new friends at this time in his life 52:17 - Kier advises on how to organically make new friends 54:33 - “Shouts out the people who are consciously overcoming mistrust and distrust of people and making new friends” - Kier Gains  If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe, rate, leave a review, and while you’re at it share it with someone you love, or like, as long as you share it! CREDITS: Executive Producer: Stacy Ike Producer: Paris McCoy Associate Producer: Emma Jackson Audio Engineer: Brian Shaffer Theme Music: Pieces by “After The Fall" Music released by: Chill Out Records  Post Production Audio: The Revolt Podcast Network Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices