S3 Ep98 Joel Spooner: Trust Under No Control

The room went silent when Joel’s son didn’t take his first breath. From that instant, everything accelerated: 45 minutes of resuscitation on the kitchen floor, an ambulance ride that felt like forever, and the surreal calm of a NICU buzzing with experts. Joel takes us inside the father’s experience what it’s like to do infant CPR with shaking hands, to watch a newborn turn from blue to pink and back again, and to face a conversation about end-of-life decisions within 24 hours of becoming a parent.Joel and his partner had prepared with intention midwives, a seasoned doula, infant first aid and that groundwork mattered. Inside the NICU, they learned to advocate with clarity: tracking plans across rotating shifts, asking precise questions, and challenging changes with respect. He shares how listening deeply, naming emotions without blame, and aligning with caregivers turned overwhelm into a shared mission to protect their son.The emotional terrain is raw and human: flashes of rage, memory gaps, the disorienting relief of a “miracle” MRI, and the complex grace of accepting help. Joel talks candidly about pride, money, and what receiving really means when community shows up with meals, rent, and late-night messages. He also offers simple anchors that carried him through breathwork, “I am” statements, and the mantra “I am here now” and how those practices still guide bedtime meltdowns and ordinary days.If you’ve ever wondered how resilience looks when control disappears, this story is a compass. If this conversation resonates, follow the show, share it with someone who needs hope, and leave a review to help others find it. Joel is also very open for people to get in touch with him, should they wish to do so.  Connect with him via his website or Instagram. Help us improve! I'd love to get your feedback...Forging Resilience supports Save A WarriorSave A Warrior works with veterans and first responders facing complex PTSD and the reality of suicide.Through this podcast, we’re supporting their work.If you want to get behind it, you can do that by buying a bag of  Major Stoke Blend coffee. All profits go directly to Save A Warrior.Good coffee. Real conversations. Work that matters.Support the showFollow my social media accounts | LinkedIn | Instagram |