Sacred Love - Love And War

Song of Solomon 5:2-6:12   Truth Statements: ·         Conflict is inevitable in marriage.  o   I am a sinner.   ·         Conflict happens because we feel wronged, or our desires and needs have not been met.  o   We are hurt o   Lack of communication o   Unmet expectations   Navigating through conflict in a Christ-honoring way . . .   1.      Always pursue reconciliation, not retaliation. •      When it comes to conflict within the marriage the goal is not to win the fight, but to reconcile the relationship. (Ephesians 5:25-33)               §  Speak the truth (Ephesians 4:15) •          Prayerfully examine your heart first (Matthew 7:4) •          Keep your motives in check •          Choose your timing carefully               §  Speak in love (Ephesians 4:29)   2.      Determine to resolve conflict quickly, but not superficially. •      Unresolved conflict results in an undercurrent of bitterness and resentment. (Ephesians 4:26-27)   3.      Be humble in seeking forgiveness and gracious in granting forgiveness. (Ephesians 4:32; Colossians 3:12-15)   4.      Be committed to the covenant you have made with each other. (Song of Solomon 5:16; 6:3)