SC 159 - What To Do When You Get Defensive

QUESTION When my boyfriend gets triggered and shares his thoughts and feelings with me, how do I not take it personal and get defensive? I feel like this creates a barrier between us when he is trying to reach out and I want to be with him in this moment. But I feel attacked even though I know he's not attacking me - I can hear my shitty defensive tone of voice and feel my body language change. I also can't get my thoughts clear enough to have a mature conversation with him, I'm all caught up in my own BS, it's pathetic! How do I get past this and be present with him? Kim - Fairfax VA SHOWNOTES Question from Kim [1:00] Zeroing in on what makes us defensive [3:00] Working out what you need when you're feeling defensive [5:00] What to do when you're too triggered to think clearly [7:00]