SC 61 - Listener Questions & My Direct Answers

In this Q&A episode, there were so many great questions. See the show notes below for a detailed line-up. SHOWNOTES How can I train myself to not go to an extreme dark place when I’m triggered by my partner? [4:30] A tool for calming yourself down. [6:00] What’s the best way to balance individual freedom in a relationship to avoid power struggles?  [6:45] How to know when to stay in a relationship and when to leave? [9:30] Why is my husband not desiring me and initiating physical intimacy and passion? [11:45] My boyfriend surfs porn, a LOT. Is this normal? Should I break up with him? [17:30] Should I move back in with my ex? How do I know if he’s forgiving me? [22:00] My partner says he’s not sure if he still has feelings for his ex. What should I do? [25:00] My old boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for eight years, currently off for a year. What’s the best way to get back together? [27:45] The best way to date someone with a mental illness? When do you know if the struggle is too much if they’re not doing the work to get better? [29:45] Someone challenges Jayson on saying “I’m sorry.” [32:15] How do I get my boyfriend to communicate more often and more openly? [34:15] What’s the best way to apply your communication tools with children? Is it the same as with a romantic partner? [35:15] What do you think about when someone says “I’m sorry you feel that way”? [38:15] Should our partner be our “best friend”? [39:30] How do I navigate my fear of enmeshment with my partner’s fear of abandonment? [40:15] Jayson’s powerful action step for this episode. [43:00]