SCUAD Workshop | Everyday Peacemaking - Session Three

Session Three completed the discussion of the "GO" Conversation framework, covering 3. Share your opinion, 4. Resolve the Issue, and 5. GO get help. When sharing an opinion, individuals are encouraged to watch their tone and attitude, and focus on communicating objective facts about what the person did (behavior, words, actions) rather than making assumptions about who they are (guessing motives, mind-reading). Throughout the process, the Conversation Temperature must be monitored to ensure it stays in the "green zone" to facilitate connection. If the conflict cannot be resolved and exhibits destructive patterns such as DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender), Step 5 is triggered, necessitating help from unbiased peacemakers. Resolution (reconciliation) is achieved through the "Own, Offer, Needs" structure, where parties take OWNership, make an OFFER to make it right, and ask what else the wronged party NEEDS for restoration, a model exemplified by Zacchaeus. Reconciliation, though difficult, is the ultimate goal, mirroring God's commitment to reconciling humanity to Himself.