Season 2 Ep 44: Sex Spreadsheets & Valentine’s Day Pressure | Consent, Desire & Real Communication

Life is hard. Relationships are harder. And sometimes people make Excel spreadsheets about sex instead of having an actual conversation.In Season 2, Episode 44 of the Hard Things Podcast, we dive into:The viral post about a husband tracking sexual rejection (yes… a spreadsheet)Why “no” still means no, even in marriageLibido mismatch, overstimulation, and mental loadWhy transactional affection kills desireValentine’s Day pressure, expectations, and resentmentDating like a job interview vs letting chemistry breatheCommunication, consent, effort gaps, and emotional laborAwkward honesty is better than performative romanceWhy real connection beats flowers, spreadsheets, and AI-written love notesWe’re not man-haters. We’re bullshit-haters.If you’ve ever felt touched-out, pressured, misunderstood, or like intimacy turned into a chore—you’re not broken. And you’re definitely not alone. Hard Things Podcast talks sex, relationships, desire, boundaries, and the messy human stuff—without sugarcoating it. Listen. Laugh. Learn. Stay hard.00:00 – Welcome to Hard Things (Life Is Hard… So Are Dicks)03:10 – The Sex Spreadsheet That Broke the Internet08:45 – Consent, Marriage & Why “No” Still Means No14:20 – Transactional Touch & Libido Killers19:30 – Mental Load, Motherhood & Overstimulation26:10 – Libido Mismatch: Who’s Wrong? (Spoiler: No One)32:40 – Valentine’s Day Pressure & Bad Expectations38:55 – Dating Like a Job Interview vs Real Chemistry45:20 – Communication Without Spreadsheets51:10 – Effort Gaps, Emotional Labor & Desire57:30 – AI Love Notes & Losing Romantic Awkwardness1:03:45 – Real Intimacy is preferred to Performative Romance1:09:30 – Final Thoughts: Say What You Actually Want